Hi everyone, i would like to meet girls and guys experiences for
post break up.. Many thanks to you if you reply sincerely. I would
appreciate so much for your advises.. Or do you have any
experiences pls share with me your views of my problems? Thank you
so much!
My ex boyfriend is 21 and i'm 23. We dated for 9 months in the
same poly and course but different classes. We recently Broke up
this March. It's realllly soo painful and hurtful for me. I couldnt
forget about him till now. i know many ppl said if he meant to be
yours, he will come back, if he's not, he will not. I have to stay
positive coz im someone who thinks too much.
Since 3 months had passed till now, my heart seem to heal and i
don't get nightmare about him. I don't know if he still got gf or
likes someone else. We Broke up coz lack of trust. i contact my
previous ex and told him that i went to meet my ex. He was shocked
and couldnt hold his feeling any longer. thus he want to let go of
me. he gave me chances to continue with me at the starting of our
relationship. But i think that was the first time he felt hard to
accept that i met my ex without his permission and lead to break
up. My previous ex and me has nothing to do with each other. he
already had a gf and is getting married soon. I kept telling him
that my ex and i really had nth to do with each other and just
friends. He didnt believe me and dislike him alot. Though they
never see each other before.
i really wish how to woo him back sincerely. i try liking other
guys but it don't work on me everytime. I try to move on too but he
is alway in the back of my mind. Pls help!
He contact me just awhile to ask how am i. Sigh.. i wish things
will be better if i stop worrying too much. Anyone who had this
experience before?
How do you try liking other guys when your
spiritual debt with your ex hasn't completely been resolved
internally? This is a clear distinctive example of a relationship
that are killed by the the spark of two separate causes that
pronouce death in a relationship, but not yet love. (CloUdiSm
theory of soul and structure).
Meeting up with an ex lover is a tricky issue because it
seriously depends on the kind of guy you are dating. For most guys,
it's a competition-cum-ego problem that they are hit with, when
their gf date her ex-beau behind their back. A combination of that
sour feelings coupled with reckless attempt to break up would often
fuel a problem of regrets in the future, especially after when they
have cooled down and began to think rationally.
It's not about a problem of ethics or morals, much more than an
issue with expectation. Your man probably had an expectation that
his woman shouldn't meet up with her ex at all cost, while you
probably had this ideal that it's still perfectly ok to remain
friends with an ex love. You probably felt certain degree of guilt
and hence, resulting in this inability to move on.
Two separate beliefs - one fatal error (that wasn't
communicated).
Personally, I do not advocate anyone returning to someone who
had trashed you into the bin like a waste paper. Albeit he might
have his reason/s to feel angry about this situation, but to
abandon the relationship entirely shows a lot about his attitude
towards his own love.
If one decides that pride is worth more than love, then he will
learn how much opportunity cost he has sacrificed to salvage pride.
Do not expect instant recovery about a break-up - allow yourself
the natural pace of healing, moving along your own rhythm of life.
Cheers
