Name: just call me
danny
Age: between 20 – 25
Problem: In love with a girl who lives
in Asia but himself lives in
Europe and the girl has already a bf for 6
years. And have only known each other for 4
days. (well, we have seen eachother before a
couple of times but not this intensly)
deadline: one - two weeks because
the tickets are expensive as hell!
Good day everyone at the agony forum, I have
a little crisis going on here and I can’t concentrate at
work/school unless I solve this problem. Hopefully you guys can
give me some advice about this matter.
But first some background
information:
I am an overseas Chinese living in
the Europe, one day my dad said my niece
is coming from Hong Kong to the
Netherlands at our house to stay for 4 days. She
has graduated and wanted to sort of go backpacking in
Europe you know the “see-the-world” trip before
she works full time.
My duty is to show her and her friends around
and got a huge sum of money to cover their expenses. By the way, we
are not blood related; she is my “god-niece” (is that how you call
it?)
The moment we met at the airport we really
hit off, she and her friends where surprised by the fact that I can
speak pretty good Cantonese for someone who lives and go to school
in a western country.
Everything is going as planned and of course
I was very gallant to her. But then one night her friend is taking
a shower and her male friend was hanging in front of the television
we starting to wrestle a little. It was all very innocent, we
started poking pushing each other and occasionally bumped some
sensitive areas.
That night everyone is very tired and went to
bed, I asked her if she wanted to go to my room and watch a movie
(it was a genuine question, I had no evil plans) okay maybe a
little fantasies but come on an hour ago I was grabbing her
ass.
We were watching the movie peacefully on the
couch in my room, since it was a small couch that only fitted me I
suggested to lie in a position where her back is to my front (spoon
if you will). As the movie got more exciting we were also getting
more excited, we starting to kiss and caressing each other. At some
point she stated she doesn’t want go all the way because she has a
boyfriend so I stopped and we fell asleep holding each
other.
As days passes by (okay it’s just two/three
days) we grow quite fond of each other, every time her friends
isn’t in the same room we started to fool around. But of course all
good things ends quickly as day four has arrived and she has to go
away. So I accompanied her and her friends to the airport and
shopped/ate there. There was still a little time before she has to
enter the gates so her two friends were chilling at a random store.
That’s when we went to some quiet place, we were holding hands and
gave a passionate goodbye kiss.
Okay that’s the bg
information.
My question is should I or should I not go to
Hk this summer and see if anything could happen between us? I was
asking some of my close friends but in the end the conclusion was
something like: “Nothing is going to happen she has a boyfriend”
“you two live in two totally different worlds”
“nay she is just playing you
dude!” “could you bring me a
souvenir?”
I can’t interpreted her signals, I mean we
kissed and stuff, we promised to keep in touch via fb or skype
whatever and the day at the airport right after we kissed she asked
me if I had something to ask/tell her. And she wanted me to come to
HK to see her.
What do you guys think? Go or
no-go?
Let me ask you a direct question. Will you want a girl who will
do things such as kissing and hugging other guys behind her bf's
back?
If she can do this to her current bf, she can do it to you
too.
Putting that aside, you have been living in Europe for quite a
while, and it can already by considered your comfort zone. If you
were to move to Asia ( more specifically Hong Kong ) for the sake
of chasing after her, will you be able to adapt quickly? Are you
able to find a job to support yourself there?
There are a lot of questions which you must ask yourself before
making any rash decisions. I don't want to sound mean, but
perhaps she
is the first teenage chinese girl whom you have seen in quite
awhile who is very attractive, and that is why you got attracted to
her. Ask yourself calmly, what do you truly like about her? If it
is just another one of those "love at first sight", I can assure
you once the 2 of you got together, the flames will die out pretty
fast.
Of course I am not going to stop you from making your own
decision, as it is your own choice, but I will ask that you do not
make any foolish move which you will regret later.
Think about it thoroughly, what will you lose if you were to
move over to see her? She didn't
mention anything about breaking up with her current bf, so don't
get your hopes up too high. Also, what will your family and her
family think? This is especially 'the case' if both of your
families are very close.
