About a week ago, I talked to a friend of mine on the topic
of how to get a gf. As we talked, I discovered that most of us
(guys) wanted a gf, not because we need a gf but rather for
self-satisfaction (be it "to show ur friend, u got a gf", "sexual
needs" and so on)
As we talked, I asked my friend this question - "what is love
exactly?" Is it the person whom makes u blush? Is it the person
that attracted to u most?
We shall discuss this further ya to uncover more useful
insights.
As most forummers here will tell you, this question has been
asked so many time that we are getting bored of it, but debates
will never end, and we will never get a complete answer.
I will assume what you mean by love is that between a couple and
not the general term.
Love comes mainly in two forms, physical and emotional. Both of
them are inter-linked.
Physical love refers to kissing, hugging, but not necessarrily
sex, and is a by product of emotional love. It is what strengthens
a relationship, and is a necessity.
Emotional love is a longing and liking for someone, mostly
accompanied by lust in men's cases, but not always. The main thing
is to understand why do you like that certain someone, is it
his/her appearance, actions or traits?
Many relationships started due to a liking of someone's
appearance, be it cool-looking, handsome, cute or pretty. As such,
most relationships in this case will end up in broken hearts.
The reason why such relationships will end badly is because both
sides are just attracted to each other and not committed. Once they
think "the feeling" is gone, they will just separate from each
other. What such couples do not realise is that committment is part
of love too.
On the otherhand, falling in love with someone because he saved
your life or did something for you isn't a very good idea either.
You will be blinded for the moment, but after a while, you will
reaslise that he has plentiful of flaws just like everyone else. If
you can accept his flaws and strength together, good for you, but
if you can't, it will not end well.
Last of all, loving someone for being the person he/she is, be
it kind, gracious, smart, brave...etc., is mostly attraction to a
certain trait. This is generally the best out of the 3 I have
mentioned, but I will say it is still not enough. If a person
changes in this case, odds are you will leave him/her, but in this
case it is his/her fault for changing from a positive to a negative
person.
If your other half treat you badly, no one will blame you for
leaving him/her, but in the modern world, a lot of relationships
ended due to either minor issues or simple "Lack of feeling/spark".
It truly saddens me to see this happening all around myself.
In conclusion, I will say love is what is simply known as "A
minute of flame, and a lifetime of committment."
