I'm not sure the SAF sent him to a therapist...he's going today
actually. He doesn't like society because of you know, the people
because he had alot of shit from people since he was young. He lost
his mother too at a very young age so he pretty much had to grow up
on his own, his father dotes him though but he's busy trying to
make ends meet.
He had an ex who was terrifying and did it with him out of guilt
because she was cheating on him. He values sex as a sacred thing so
in the end though there was intercourse he didn't do anything, and
I suppose a few minutes after she realized he wasn't interested,
she just got off and went home. For about 3-4 years he lived his
life with her thinking he's useless. She used to make fun of him
and her mother and her both called him useless etc.
Then he had alot of accummulated anger or some enlightnened
sense...and decided to hate. Him falling for me is a miracle. He
thinks I'm perfect etc. Which I guess provides too much of a
contradiction to the person who was talking dirty to the
transvestite. Initially I assumed that...he needed someone to talk
to about him getting gay jokes or if perhaps he has a guy-girl
problem. I'm only taking comfort to that.
I mean no disrespect to anyone. I just don't know how to put
this in a better way. He really went through alot but he said the
moment I came into his life everything is complete.
I told him two nights ago, I said not to clip his own wings,
just keep flying. One moment of folly should not determine how he
lives the rest of his life. Deep down, I'm just pretty shit
scared.
Just do your best to help him since you are 1 of the best person
to. Just stay by this side and help him tide over his problems to
the best of your ability. Sometimes just the presence of someone
who cares works alot more than any counsellor can advice.
Problems during the childhood so sometimes lead to some problems
later in life but your bf will need to be able to get over the
feminist comments and think of himself as a guy doing things the
guy way and not girl.
If sex is really sacred to him, i don't think he would do
anything unfaithful to you since theres no reason for him to do it
and ruin things with you.
