Hey ppl, need some advice on
whether I shd enter into a relationship.
Just to clarify, I am 22 this year,
in a local uni.
I got to know this girl in
January. She is in
one of my weekly classes but we take different but
equally demanding courses. We are groupmates.
Some basic
facts/problems:
1) She is
most likely
single( her facebook profile) and from
conversations with her and her frens, there is nothing to suggest
that she is attached. And we shd proceed on the assumption that she
is not.
2) I noticed
that in many one on one photos that she took with guys, the guy had
his hand on her shoulder. However, the problem is that the
guy in the photos
are always different. In other words,
perhaps(fortunately) she does not have a superb close relationship
with any guy yet.
3) She has many
frens(both guys and gals), both within and outside sch.
I noticed that sometimes one or two
guys tend to tease her by pulling her hair when they spring from
behind. She did not seem to object.
4) Currently,
on a scale of 0-10(0 being total strangers and 10 being the best of
friends), I would rate the level of closeness between us as 7.
During exam period, I do join her for
study sessions with her group of frens (both guys and gals
included). I even had the opportunity to have lunch with her on a
couple of occasions. We talk about almost everything, but mainly
sch work, mutual frens and family.
5) We do not
really exchange smses on a daily basis. But I try to sms her occasionally iust to keep in
touch. But sometimes I noticed she may not reply my smses( I do not
ask qns that intrude on her privacy though).
6) I am not
aware of any competitors as of yet. But this might be due to the
fact that I do not spend enough time with her to know who is always
with her (different courses, timetables and schedules). Recently
though, when I chanced upon her in sch,
she mentioned that she was on her way to meet a male fren(for
reasons unknown). She even told me who that guy was but perhaps
that was because I also know that guy although not very
close.
7)
Recently, i faced some pressing personal issues. I called her to
talk to her and she did say that I can call her anytime to talk
about them. But I am quite sure that because of her very nice
character, she would have told any other relatively good guy fren
the same if they were faced with similar problems.
8) As mentioned
before, both of us are quite busy students but I will definitely
find some time for her if I do commit to this
relationship.
9) I have not been in any previous relationships
before and I think the same can be said of her( facebook and
Friendster testimonials/comments). The reason why I am attracted to
her is because I think she is quite attractive but most importantly
she has the qualities that I would like in a potential
gf/spouse.
So now, I am hesitant about going
all out to go after her. This is due to the fact that I am not very
comfortable with points 2 and 3. But then again, could I be too
old-fashioned and conservative? Does points 2 and 3 mean anything?
Or just the guys trying to get fresh? On a side note, is it a trend
for guys to do that(teasing and placing arms on shoulder) in a 1 on
1 photo, even when the girl is not their gf ? And would most girls
just consent to such actions?
I would appreciate any sensible and
well-intentioned advice on whether I should make my move. Thanks in
advance!!
