The solution ( not the end of it all) - is to be honest with
yourself - to recognise n be aware of the lack within
U of - cos no matter what comes into your life-
love, money, ... one can add on - its not going to stay - only
thing that is permanent in life is change - so the less u rely or
depend on .... and be self-fullfilled - u will always feel at peace
- cos the well within u is everflowing - are u?
The quality of one's life is the quality of one's ability to
RELATE - whether its work, friends, ....... relating is difficult
but that is the only way to go - relationship(s) is a thing - the
other has been reduced to a thing, how to relate to a dead thing!
The crux of it is this - when u enslave another ( in the guise of
love - when in reality it is fear of loss, needs .....) u also
become a slave. When one is self-fuliflled - one shares, when one
is not - one seeks out another - and u know lar - its either a
melodrama or psychodrama - seeking security in another - through
marriage, thru friendship - the other is a means to ur end - its
akin to using another - that is the ultimate insult to one's
being.
Needs and fears and insecurity (within) not reconciled is
a burden to oneself and the other ( could be anyone - not
necessarily a spouse, prospective ....) - it is tantamount to
beggary!
