Problems of the heart

Rackers 21 SG

hey, i have a problem. i would really appreciate it if people give sensible answers. not stupid answers that just make the person look shallow. Anyway, i think i like this girl.. but somehow, she has this habit of adding random guys on facebook or friendster. She doesn't know these guys at all. I'm at a loss at what to do. Should i try to influence her not to continue this practice, or should i jsut abandon all hope?? Can anyone tell me what to do??

And recently , she's getting angry because i don't reply to her msg fast enough. And when I find the time to just sit down and talk to her, she would purposely take a long time, and talk to someone else instead.

And somehow.... I don't feel comfortable when she talks to her male friends. I admit perhaps i'm jealous. But i have low self-esteem and an inferiority complex. Well, admitting your faults is the first step to solve a problem right?

Daisuke-kun SG

you're the problem

there's nothing wrong with randomly adding people on facebook or friendster. you don't have to do anything.

if she's angry that you don't reply to her fast, den call her. you don't need to sit down to talk. over the phone is fine.

you like her but is she your girlfriend? nope, i don't think so. you're in no right to be at loss at what to do.

to me, she's treating you as another friend.

Midlusionz SG

U just make her feel wanted. Lol, nothing more .. Nothing less. Sad but true.

HiAy3Captain SG

lol r u her boyfriend in the first place?

Rackers 21 SG

yes she is.. what am i doing wrong then? I call her and then she says she is busy. And hwen i put down, she starts saying about how long i take to reply again.

Midlusionz SG

If u can do it.. F care her. This kind of girl dun deserve guys's attention imo.

Rackers 21 SG

I mean, she can be really nice at times. And i do enjoy talking to her. I'm busy with studies, mid years are coming, but i set aside time to talk to her, but whenever i find the time, she's probably talking to some other guy. I mean, she's my first relationship, so i don't really have much of an idea what to do. Is it normal for your gf to keep talking to a lot of other guys? And most of them are people she doesn't actually know, but randomly added on facebook. I'm worried that she gets cheated by some sick dog... lols.

Rackers 21 SG

is it really right ?

d3sT1nY SG

Well, my advice would be concentrate on studies. If she has some feelings for you, she will come to you eventually, no matter whether you ignore her or what.

Anyway, it's always better to concentrate on studies then see what's her reaction like.

Rackers 21 SG

so you're saying that i should just completely stop smsing her first n the morning? that's what i always do, i msg her in the morning before school. Then if she sends me a msg, should i reply? she won't call cause she said that she only has free incoming. :|

HiAy3Captain SG

u sound like u really like her a lot.

question:does she deserve it?

Rackers 21 SG

I really do like her. Its the first time i've really been so serious about a girl, cause(this may sound weird) but my mom thinks that its better to study first, 'got brains, then can win girl'. haha....

so what should i do? and some people think im the problem. If you can give me ideas on how to be better, I'll really apprecaite it!

ItchyArmpit SG

yo.. try stop replying all those silly stuffs.. but reply all those serious topics...

if she angry.. then ignore her... if nothing happens then treat it as normal..

if u feel wat she do is only for attention attracting, but not purposeful... then just heck care her.. she is not good enough for u.. trust me..

i got a friend that she is always attention seeking, 30% of the time making purposeful things, 70% of the time seeking attention... trust me.. if ur friend is like my friend lidat.. then she is a low grade hypocrite being..

i am saying all these as i see nothing wrong at replying msg too slow.. and if she really need to have a fast reply, she might as well call... dun tell me she dun wanna spend that few cents for that urgent reply...

btw no offense.. and good luck
IA

brainerror SG

well, as i always say, singlehood is the best. what i think is that, you should not be like jealous or what.its just normal that girls know more guys and stuff

Daisuke-kun SG

well, as i always say, singlehood is the best. what i think is that, you should not be like jealous or what.its just normal that girls know more guys and stuff

not really

i'm single but sometimes i feel jealous of my ex going off with people who i don't approve of

brainerror SG

that is because you still do care for her.

Daisuke-kun SG

that is because you still do care for her.

yeah, it's the sense of protection i still have for her

i dun mind her going but still... i would never be able to forgive them if they hurt her

HiAy3Captain SG

then talk to her face to face

let her know all ur concerns

it would feel much better even if it doesnt work out in the end

Beautiful951 SG

so what should i do? and some people think im the problem. If you can give me ideas on how to be better, I'll really apprecaite it!

Maybe you won't like this, but I think your mother is right. Studying is most important at your age.

You mentioned your low self esteem, maybe you should solve that first. And accept yourself as you are. And respect yourself, by saying that, I mean, understand that you are just as important as other people.

Oh well, thats about all I know what to say.

Rackers 21 SG

Thanks guys. I don't know. Well I grew up with a mother whom impressed upon me the need to respect girls and those old fashioned ideals that the perfect girl should be those type of really responsible, sweet, innocent, non-flirty type. In short those type that you wouldn't mind spending the rest of your life with.

Maybe i shouldn't post this here(will i get scolding from an admin?) but do those type of girls that i described above still exist?

And inreference to my problem: I should just stop msging her and pretend that i don't really care?