hello all,
I have just gone steady with a girl, it is my first relationship
and all is going fine, we are happy together but there is a problem
that has been bothering me for a few months,ever since I got to
know her.
let me state that I am a straight male and like ordinary people
I experience lust, the problem I face is that I have almost no
sexual feeling towards my girlfriend although she is reasonably
attractive by my own standards. I am not sure what is wrong but I
can rule out impotency since I still have a need to watch
pornography .Also, I am only attracted to women and know for sure
that I am not homosexual.
This has not affected our relationship as she is against
pre-marital sex but nonetheless I find this troubling for obvious
reasons.
I am wondering if this is a case of an overly suppressed oedipus
complex whereby feelings of lust and love are not allowed to
overlap.
Sorry if this seems complicated...
Malevolent,
You are not ab-normnal.
It's just that... you are watching too much porn.
The feelings you have towards porn is different from the feeling
you have for your girlfriend.
You may experience lust when you watch porn and because of your
upbringing, you probably feel in your heart that lust is
un-pure.
But because you respect and love your girlfriend.. you want to
maintain that pure feeling with her.
There is nothing wrong with your relationship. Just enjoy the
companionship, that's wat truly matters.
