I guess as long as you are not married yet, you still can make
choices. It's only once you take that sacred vow, come hell or
highwater, you and your partner MUST NEVER give up easily on each
other.
So dont unnecessarily make any committments that will ultimately
hurt others, just because you are lonely, possesive or on
impulse. True love takes serious committment to keep the flame
burning eternally. Love cannot be baised on 'kiasuism' that we
grew up with as Singaporeans. We've always been taught to stand on
2 boats to be safe, better than to be sorry. But the problem is,
once the boats take off, you can no longer stand on both, but only
1 or you will only fall into the deep waters.
No 2 humans think ever think alike. We are not mirror image of
one another. Thus, we really have to communicate with one another
on things we want, and not by hints that can be easily
misunderstoo. Love needs honest comunication. Without it, we might
as well as become strangers.
True love sets you free, not for just one faked moment, but
eternally, if you find and treasure that quality in your flawed
partner which all flawed humans will at least have one or a
few, which appeals to you that can last a
lifetime thru good and bad times - good nature, kind,
generous, etc, etc - characteristics that goes beyond pure
changeable materialism.
Make friends, take your time. True love is more than just having
sex, being possesive, buying that HDB flat quickly or even
having children. But do understand there is no perfection in
this world. There will NEVER be the perfect guy, but i am sure you
can settle down with a good guy.
No one can predict the future. However, the future can be
determined and projected, and it is by both's confidence and faith
in each flawed human partner to face the constant of change
courageously together.
May you make the right choice. In the event you don't, don't
blame yourself if you had truly tried your best to make things
work out. As long as you had tried your best and fell, and
not because of some petty excuses, just
stand bravely up and continue on, just as million others had
done before you.
