yes..agree...when u dun try to remember..it seems to get
better..
but also a fren once said..some pple take forever to
recover..but I hope I wont have to take too long..
how to not hate?
Forgiveness will cure hatred. Are you ready to forgive? You should
consider forgiveness if you really don't wish to hate.
I don't see anything wrong with hate or hatred. We hate because
we needed hatred to protect us and constantly remind/warn us about
the ugly things that people could do to us.
But we can always forgive and practise forgiveness to cure our
hatred when we are safe from those people and we know that it is
impossible for us to be hurt by those who hurted us before.
Don't worry about how the world thinks or how abnormal it might
sound. But you should hate when it is necessary to hate, love when
it is required for you to love, and forgive when you are safe from
harm and ready to forgive.
You're not a robot or toy or a chess piece in this world, you
are ALIVE.
So please take control of your own steering wheel and turn off
the cruise control and take back your own life from people around
you who have robbed you of your own pure freedom.
But you need to be a sensible person first. 
