how to get over someone?
it's been so long...yet I still can't seem to get over him..
sometimes I feel better..but after awhile, the sad feeling comes
back again..
it seems like a vicious cycle
How to get over someone?
You don't.
When you walk along the beach enjoying a peaceful sunset, even
in the midst of the crowd, you will remember him.
When you are sitting alone at home, listening to some music, you
remember your time with him.
You try to mix around with others, go into different
relationships, but you will either compare him to others or hold
yourself back, because you remember your deeply shared experiences
with him.
You try to get drunk, but at a drunken state which gives you
happiness, it only triggers your memories and makes you weep even
harder, at the loss of him.
We humans can never forget. The way we can never forget
alphabets. We can never 'unlearn'. The human mind does not function
like a computer, where the delete button will wipe away files or
wiped away by using a magnet on the harddisk.
Memories will always stay with us. More so if it was deeply
etched through trial and tribulations.
But it is within our power to control such
memories. It takes only
determination. Determination to convince yourself why you
must not linger on such memories. We know what is good and bad for
ourselves. We cannot bring life to the dead. That's
why we must give ourselves a reason to reject those
memories when it surfaces.
Time heals not by forgetting, but heals by making your
realizing why you can no longer bring the dead alive.
Those hopes of a return to the good times in your memories of
him are dead and inevitably gone forever. Embrace and enjoy
those memories in your vulnerable moments, but know that it
has a door marked 'NEVERMORE'. Smile at them and know that when one
door closes, another one opens. This is a reality many happy
couples know. And you can be one of them too, if you let yourself
free instead of being crippled by your memories.
