How to deal with rebellious kid?

last SG · 2009-03-06T13:28:19+00:00

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Triangle1992 SG

There are different factors that can make kids become rebellious and following is only some of them:

- Parents are too controlling and strict

- Kids are in their teenage years

- Parents don't do what they preach

- Parents are being unreasonable eg "because I say so"

Anyway, please give us more background on why you think your kid is rebellious and how old is he/she?

Sounds like my mother

nehpyh SG

Parent(s) is inconsistent with their teaching in the first place. Cane the parents first, then the kid.

d3sT1nY SG

Cane cane cane and cane. That's what my mum did to me when I was young.

But I love her still.

They will only understand when they grow up.

honeymouse SG

Cane cane cane and cane. That's what my mum did to me when I was young.

But I love her still.

They will only understand when they grow up.

It worked for you because every parents in the past did the same to the kids. So the kids you mixed with had the same punishment at home so you didn't think anything wrong with it.

Don't think it would work these days as most parents have spared the cane. When kids get together and talk about how they get punished at home, kids who get caned at home would start to dislike the parents and start to get rebellious.

seotiblizzard SG

need to 'synchronise' with the kid

So u have to stoop at their level??

JJxJJ SG

S.gal83 SG

Try to talk with the kid and discuss with him/her why he/she is so rebellious. Tell him/her how you truly feel about his/her rebelliousness. If that doesn't work, use the cane.

the Bear SG

post-natal abortion

Q.C.Pak SG

If cane cannot...shoot

caleb_chiang SG

Give goodies to those who listen... let him be the odd one out.

d3sT1nY SG

Eh. But somehow when I compare myself to the rest, they are like living a better life than me. Maybe I don't know what kind of punishments do their parents carry out lah.

I was also chased out of the house before. I remember I was grabbing the house door when my mum was caning me like caning some barbie doll.

BotaHead SG

hi,

my english not very good ah, rebellious mean that the kid like to challenge u? u ask him to do A and he purposely do B?

maybe u can try telling the kid the opposite ah, take for example if u want him to go left then dont ask him to go left ah, u can try telling him to go right instead. knowing that he will purposely go left and that will solve your probem ah.

u can also try the encouragement way too, just dont challange him ah, tell him nicely that if he be a good boy and keep quiet for 5 min then u will give him a sweet.

i dont know will this work ah, but i think u can use it at your own risk ah

thank you ah

Lokey SG

[Actually is not really my problem]

when ask why him did not like to study ? he say too boring, want to play.

when ask why does he smoke? he say he dont know

... the problem this guy does not listen, and he think that his decisions are right and yet his vision is so small. Does working at full-time Mc at the age of 15 bring him good career prospect. It is difficult to let him see the light.

He is rebellious ( Resisting treatment or control; unruly) , defiance (Intentionally contemptuous behavior or attitude; readiness to contend or resist) and lack of logical thinking (simple does not do things that make sense).

(just added the meaning)

Prehaps, some people are just not so bright. Feel like just leave him alone and let him suffer based on his own consequence.

Best any one of those kids might volunteer to explain yourself.

Ran dom1990 SG

LOL, the replies are hilarious!

Anw, i believe that if a child from young , have good upbringing, they won't be rebellious. I'm sure not about ur definition of rebellious though.

Talk to them is the best solution!

seyKai SG

just kill them

seyKai SG

when he is young, u didnt talk to him

now grown up, do u expect him to talk to u?

dumbdumb! SG

hmm, how old is the kid?

there are 3 types of parenting, depending on the age of the kid.

dictatorship parenting - for kids. because they don't know what's good for them, what's right and wrong, you decide for them

advisory parenting - for teens, because they are learning to be an adult, you have to allow them to make certain decisions (things that won't screw up their lives, like CCA choices) without always telling them what to do. they'll automatically resent that. just be there to support them, when they face the consequences of their decisions, for better or for worse.

consultation parenting - when your child is now an adult. Do make yourself available if they need to ask your valued advices about life. But do not make decisions for them, ever.

speaking of which, i just quarrelled and told my mum off. feeling horrible =(

Fryderyk HPH SG

post-natal abortion

LMAO!

Fryderyk HPH SG

Eh. But somehow when I compare myself to the rest, they are like living a better life than me. Maybe I don't know what kind of punishments do their parents carry out lah.

I was also chased out of the house before. I remember I was grabbing the house door when my mum was caning me like caning some barbie doll.

Your punishment sounds light compared to what MY parents do...

thehappybunny SG

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