Should I marry her ?

oldbreadstinks SG

Friends been telling me only marry the girl you love and find compatible and someone whom you want to spend their life with ,,, easier said than done,,,, because you cannot find someone like that ,,,, even if you found her she may not accept you in the first place,, anyone in this situation before ..can enlighten me ??

think you better don't get married with this type of thinking, cause pain to everyone.

Lanjiaolan SG

Love the person you marry and not marry the person you love. That is the secret to everlasting happiness.

How to ? your heart must have the desire first or passion in it ,,, does it means those of you, you married are not the ones you love most ann , how do find the spark again , my heart died 3 years ago , i do not know why , during the 1st two years it wasnt like that , i was so happy with her then , now i only feel is an obligation i am angry with myself and i really dun want to hurt her , as i just marry her to fulfil my responsibilty , can someone share his /her experiences ,,, i do not want to make a mistake it may be painful to part with her and it may be more painful for both of us if we were to get marry

Some of my friend broke us with their ex as they said they said lost the feeling , i am very sad that i am in this situation ,,, i was thinking i may stay single for the rest of my life but this may be a better thing because i really do not want to hurt her and destroy her future happiness which i may not be able to provide

DiDiDa SG

sometimes i think it depends on ur perception to the rs...some couples can jus be together as couples, somehow with the marriaged instilled, they get divorced..yet when they stay as couples, they r ever so loving..

mayb ur love faded coz u waited too long to settle down..but den again, to marry due to pressure is so nono...better end it now den after u get married.

silv3rgal SG

if you get bored with people just after a few years... i guess marriage isn't for you because even you have found a new girl... perhaps after a few more years you will get bored and lose interest in the r/s again...

But frankly speaking, how to me in honeymoon mode all the time??! Things do fade....eventually

Rock^Star SG

yeh bro, maybe marriage just isnt for you? You looking for a new pussy all the time? (no pun intended) If you are, better not get married.

You know..... u look at our grandfathers and grandmothers, their marriages were arranged and they lived with each other till old.

Your heart died 3 years ago....if u ask any long time married couple, they will tell u their r/s are like brother and sister....a loving and having sexual relations one, that is if u know what i mean.

If u really feel u cannot do it, then just break her off. But u may regret as i can alrdy feel u do in your post. And then when u r off with another girl, u may feel ur ex's the best. Those are all possibilities and guess what, you've got a triangle to deal with by then.

Then again, if ur just horny and getting tired of a woman after 3 mere years, then just stay single and screw the hell of ur lifetime. Dun even talk about 30 years bro.

Rednano SG

TS... u realli wasted 5 years of the girl life waiting for u to pop the big question... n now u want to pop a different sentence...

which one u want...

"honey, will you marry me?"
OR
"honey, i think after 5 years, we are better off as just friends..."

caleb_chiang SG

relationship is about giving and taking. If you keep insisting on taking without giving, how would a relationship continue?

Marry her if you can imagine living with her till ripe age.

Dun if you can't.

Cos ultimately, everything become like this while times goes by. You need to spice up your relationship once in a while so that you would experience love constantly.

Yunhaier SG

In this dilema ,I have been with this girl for 5 years ,,, honestly the love has faded and only left with responsibility towards her,,,, friend and family have been pressuring me to marry her , i keep asking myself am I the one for her or should I just break off this relationship so she can find someone better and not hold her back ,,, if you are in this stage you know what i mean because we have been together for so long there are bound to be emotional attachment ,,, is not so easy to call off the relationship

You already find no reasons to be in the relationship and hence, the last thing you ought to do is to put yourself in denial mode.

If obligation is the only reason why you are in it, but before you decide that all is over, you might want to speak to her and trash everything. You might or might not learn that this relationship is truly over and if the outcome is not promising, as least you can work towards an amicable break-up, which is pretty much a mature way of handing issues, rather than opting to run away.

P.S: Relationship is never static - length of relationship does not guarantee everlasting fulfillment or marriage.

Cheers

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