I have a friend who has broken up with his ex-gf of 8 years
about 2 years ago. The girl is the one who suggested the breakup,
and the reason being he is just not a good bf to her after knowing
each other for more than 10 years. When they broke up, the guy was
devastated and has tried all means to get her back, but she was so
cruel that she even rejected his proposal to get married. Now ... 2
years later, she came back to him and asked him back, he... on the
other hand felt that he has owed her, as he has not been a good bf
when they were together. He is a very responsible person and very
loyal to who he loved. Therefore he decided to get back together
with her.
I felt that this is so unfair to the guy, as I've seen how he
got hurt when they broke up... Just because she is not able to find
another bf during these 2 years, or maybe she is already 34 this
year ... or for whatever reason, she decided to take him back. What
do you all think?
What were her reasons for leaving him?
He fell short of her expectations in what ways?
No one will marry someone they didn't love so she wasn't cruel
to reject his proposal. Besides, salvaging a failed relationship
through marriage wouldn't have worked in his interest either.
I think this has less more to do with your friend and less to do
with his 34yo ex. He should learn to act in his own interest before
taking the plunge again.
If, like you said, he wants to revive this failed relationship
out of obligation, he has serious issues to straighten out.
