whats wrong? help

3dfxcard SG

Hi everyone, this is my first real post here and sth i hope i can share with the caring people here.

Ive know this girl(lets call her A for ez ref) for abt a year now and like recently we started to get close we've been texting each other for quite abit the last 1 or 2 months, and on the vday week she asked me out on the wed at nite, so i went out to meet her and we actually chatted till 6am.

Well, lookin thruout the night this is wat i observed

we talked alot and got quite into pretty personal topics such as family

she didnt really shy away when there was any physical contact, eg when my hand brushed her's while we were walking

i asked her out on sat(vday) and she agreed.

she let me send her home

before letting me send her home, she took me to a spot where there is a good view of singapore where we chatted a litle more

well i sent her to her apartment, but didnt see her to her door.. however i text her and made sure she got home b4 i left.

the next day she text me w a good morning!

and.. tats all i heard frm her

i texted her at 4pm and 2am and still no replies

the following day i got worried and gave her a call at 12pm and 6pm and she didnt anwer, but she replied around 8pm, and her msg was pretty normal, as how she'd text me. afterwhich i nv heard frm her again till ard 6am on vday, she texted me that she had some problems and will not be able to meet me..

i replied asking if she was ok and if she needed somone to talk to, but no replies.

and.. nth has happneed till now. whats wrong?!

Rednano SG

playing hard to get lor... an usual girl tactics... push n pull effect...

Violetress SG

dont get too paranoid about her not replying u eh.. maybe nothing is wrong, just u being over-sensitive?

BrUtUs SG

Hi everyone, this is my first real post here and sth i hope i can share with the caring people here.

Well, lookin thruout the night this is wat i observed

we talked alot and got quite into pretty personal topics such as family

she didnt really shy away when there was any physical contact, eg when my hand brushed her's while we were walking

i asked her out on sat(vday) and she agreed.

she let me send her home

before letting me send her home, she took me to a spot where there is a good view of singapore where we chatted a litle more

well i sent her to her apartment, but didnt see her to her door.. however i text her and made sure she got home b4 i left.

the next day she text me w a good morning!

and.. tats all i heard frm her

i texted her at 4pm and 2am and still no replies

i replied asking if she was ok and if she needed somone to talk to, but no replies.

and.. nth has happneed till now. whats wrong?!

weird gal... believe u met her in sch? go check with her frens if she still alive...

Vs SG

have you checked with your mobile carrier if it's a network issue...?

give her some time. maybe things happened too quickly and she's not ready?

RHluvW SG

TS, your problem is that you've become too needy for her... which is kind of like a turn off to girls, even to guys... to people in general.

You are being "nice", but not being MAN enough to kiss her at the doorstep. That's what you should have done, I feel. From what you say, I guess you pretty much lost her interest in you. Don't be sad because there are so many girls around. A man should be more focused on career than just girls unless you're talking about your bed skills.

huzane89 SG

playing hard to get lor... an usual girl tactics... push n pull effect...

I experience something similar. This time it was the guy. Even those sms like asking qns normally also never reply. I got tired and left him alone. Not sure if his still playing hard to get.

TS, may fishes out there. No need to worry so much on one.

Violetress SG

its tough to tell him not to worry la... will surely dwell everyday de... but hope u will slowly get to see the bigger picture lor... tink abt our world ard us... u see the gaza incident so cham...

Cool-gal SG

aiyah, maybe her bf found out?

or, she feels tat u're getting abit too 'interested' in her?

jesslyn1992 SG

let the time passes and see what she'll do. if she keeps ignoring you, forget it, she's not interested in you. but if she suddnly replies to your message, that's it, she's playing hard to get

mancha SG

Nothing wrong except that you expect too much. You think she ought to be head over heels with you, as you are with her. When she is not, (she is just normal), you become paranoid.

Deflate that ego of yours a bit, and move on. You are not grown up yet, but please act grown up, there is no harm in that, and it is good for you.

3dfxcard SG

a very big thx to everyone who helped !

apparently she has some issues and have had them solved

except mancha, quit being a typical singaporean and dont give ur advice if u have nothing better to say den to shoot the fella off, i came here for help, not to be told im an egotistic un-grown up. and yes i do admit being sensitive. and liking someone just to move on becoz the opposite party doesnt show interest? what sort of person are u? maybe you shld be the own who needs to grow up and learn the secret art of "think before u shoot ur mouth off"

even if this love was unrequited, is it wrong to worry for someone albeit its been 2 days?

not grown up and tryin to "act" grown up is certainly not my type, i am me, i dont try to be someone im not.

tripsky SG

so now u got chance with her or not

mancha SG

a very big thx to everyone who helped !

apparently she has some issues and have had them solved

even if this love was unrequited, is it wrong to worry for someone albeit its been 2 days?

not grown up and tryin to "act" grown up is certainly not my type, i am me, i dont try to be someone im not.

Good it turned out well. There was nothing to worry about. We told you so.

You come here for help, and you got it. You don't like it that's your prob. Remember its you thats sensitive.

parn SG

Hi everyone, this is my first real post here and sth i hope i can share with the caring people here.

Well, lookin thruout the night this is wat i observed

we talked alot and got quite into pretty personal topics such as family

she didnt really shy away when there was any physical contact, eg when my hand brushed her's while we were walking

i asked her out on sat(vday) and she agreed.

she let me send her home

before letting me send her home, she took me to a spot where there is a good view of singapore where we chatted a litle more

well i sent her to her apartment, but didnt see her to her door.. however i text her and made sure she got home b4 i left.

the next day she text me w a good morning!

and.. tats all i heard frm her

i texted her at 4pm and 2am and still no replies

i replied asking if she was ok and if she needed somone to talk to, but no replies.

and.. nth has happneed till now. whats wrong?!

Seems like you could use this song really soon....

陳小春-我愛的人

我知道故事不會太曲折
wo zhi dao gu shi bu hui tai qu zhe
I know this story is pretty straightforward

我總會遇見一個什麼人
wo zong hui yu jian yi ge shen me ren
I will find someone

陪我過沒有了她的人生
pei wo guo mei you le ta de ren sheng
To accompany me along the life without her

成家立業之類的等等
cheng jia li ye zhi lei de deng deng
Settle down, good career and everything

她做了她覺得對的選擇
ta zuo le ta jue de dui de xuan ze
Since she's made the choice she thinks is right

我只好祝福她真的對了
wo zhi hao zhu fu ta zhen de dui le
I can only give her my blessings

愛不到我最想要愛的人
ai bu dao wo zui xiang yao ai de ren
I can't love the person that I really want to

誰還能要我怎樣呢
shui hai neng yao wo zhen me ne
What else can I do?

我愛的人不是我的愛人
wo ai de ren / bu shi wo de ai ren
The person I love is not my lover

她心裡每一寸都屬於另一個人
ta xin li mei yi cun / dou shu yu ling yi ge ren
Every inch in her heart has been taken by the other person

她真幸福幸福得真殘忍
ta zhen xin fu / xin fu de zhen can ren
She's really happy and this happiness is cruel

讓我又愛又恨她的愛怎麼那麼深
rang wo you ai you hen / ta de ai zen me na me shen
Makes me love and hate how can her love be that deep

我的愛人她已有了愛人
wo de ai ren / ta yi you le ai ren
The person I love has a lover

從他們的眼神說明了我不可能
cong ta men de yan shen / shuo ming le wo bu ke neng
The look in their eyes tells it all, it's impossible for me

每當聽見她或他說(我們)
mei dang ting jian / ta huo ta shuo (wo men)
Everytime I hear them use 'we'

就像聽見愛情永恆的嘲笑聲
jiu xiang ting jian ai qing / yong heng de chao xiao sheng
It's just like love, laughing at me, eternally