pardon my long-winded story.
During the December holidays, I've started to like my classmate
(let's call her Gi). I guess that's what they called absence makes
the heart grow fonder. I don't dare say we hit off really well at
school, but at least we were on talking terms and SMSed from time
to time.
Lately, I've tried small steps to win her heart, like meeting
her before going for class outings and offering to see her home
after that. Unfortunately, these attempts have been unsuccessful.
She would say her boyfriend is sending her there and she would be
sharing cab with her girl friend home (although I lived closer to
her).
The news that she has a boyfriend certainly broke my heart. And
I confided my sadness to her close girl friend. However, according
to this girl friend of hers, Gi sweared to her that that is
not a boyfriend, YET. My so-called rival is actually a family
friend of hers and Gi has a pretty good impression of him.
Of course, this now introduces another problem-- why did Gi tell
me she has a boyfriend, even though they have not gone into a
relationship YET?
I chose to believe her friend, coz it reignited my hope. Her
birthday is coming in two weeks' time and I wanna spend it with
her, that is, if she gives me that chance. I tested her out today
after one month without SMSing her. I went to NTU today for a
school tour and offered to bring her some brochures and prospectus.
Well, at least she replied but it was still a 'no thanks'.
So the big question now is whether I should pop the question?,
that I wanna celebrate her birthday with her. I could almost
foresee a no (CNY, busy). There should be no harm trying (at most
worsening of our relationship, if we even have one in the 1st
place). Yet, I'm kinda sick of being rejected all the time. Does
sincerity through never giving up still work in this age and
time?
What do you see in her in the first place?
What is the reason that caused you to be attracted to her?
If it is not her personality, then it is her physical
appearance.
You will find someone with better physical appearance than her
and next time you must first fall in love with her personality
before you decide if you can love her physical appearance for the
longest period of time.
Life is full of regrets lurking at every corner, so don't make
this current girl becomes one of your regrets in life. Because some
regrets will stick with you for life, unlike other kinds of
regrets.
I don't encourage you to confess because you couldn't make her
feel attracted to you, and she doesn't have any reason to accept
you and so she won't accept you as her boyfriend.
Even if you succeed, you also won't feel comfortable with her if
she's constantly rejecting you. How much more pain can you absorb
before you breaks?
Think about it and it's better to go after the girl only when
you have succeeded in attracting her attention and of
course...curiousity. 
