u're right tt respect is earned. similarly, if u wan ur mum to
respect u, u shld respect her too. u call her names like "lying
bugger" behind her back. at the moment, i dun tink u deserve her
respect.
as for the license, next time if u really not interested in
smth, dun do it. i believe u took the easy way out at
first, just agreed wif her, cos u tot tt she was gg to pay.
but remember, it's childish to agree to smth, and then say tt ur
mum (or whoever) "forced you" into it. nobody put a gun to ur head
k? if u dun like it, u shld *not* have given in at all in the first
place.
even if ur mum changed her mind abt the license, maybe she's
just trying to teach u the value of being financially independent.
in fact, a lot of pple wif backbone wld rather use their own money
than their parents' money after they hit 20.
u wan ur mum to ctrl u less, yet u get upset when she asks u to
pay for ur own things. can u see that there is a contradiction?
u're actually showing her thru ur bu shuang attitude abt the
driving lessons tt u do not wan ur freedom.
right now, u wan the best of both worlds. u wan less control,
yet u still wan ur mummy to be ur financial kao shan (mountain
behind u). but guess what, u can't have both at the same time. u
have to make a choice.
i'm really sorry tt ur relatives and mum made those comments abt
u. still, i tink u shld try to discuss wif her again... instead of
giving a don't care attitude. the fact is, u do care right? it
bothers u tt they make unkind remarks abt u... another suggestion
tho, next time when u and mum got issues, dun bring ur relatives
into it. cos they dun live wif u, they are after all "outsiders"
and won't understand. might make matters worse between u and ur
mum.
i nv bring in my relatives abt those issue de. my mum bring one.
she complain also whole world know.
yea i admit i take easy way out..gotta stop this habit.. but i
cannot tahan her bugging me all the time.. den to keep her quiet i
jsut say ya okay. den how, cos alot of times i say NO many many
many times, she still bug lei. she cannot take NO for answer. so
how? what would you advice me do if she keeps bugging me and i
really DO NOT want to do it? (yea, for my own good, but if i really
dun like it, no point tryign to force me to do it, cos i'll only
get upset, right?)
i agree that i rather use my own money pay for stuff i want. but
here's the catch: stuff i WANT nehx. driving i dun want lor.. i
just dun like she make commitments den nv hold to it de. for me, an
eye for an eye lei. i also want to make her feel how is it like to
have promises retracted.
