Are you not for a moment letting your insecurities get the better
of you? Or are you simply choosing to live in denial and believe
your brand of fantasy utopia to be reality?
Are you really still friends after this incident for a start? Or
rephrasing it, are you remotely convinced your "friendship" hasn't
taken a beating after this debacle (regardless of whether you turn
up for her wedding and in what capacity)?
In short, if you were really "strong" and not that bothered
about the perception of others, you'd hardly even need to "imagine"
if "will we still be friends after tt". The fact you feel remotely
compelled to attend because of a sense of obligation already raises
your underlying concern.
Put it this way, there really isn't a need to try to convince
anyone of what you plan to do - if anything, the whole answer to
your dilemma is pretty much straightforward. If you're attending
for the sake of salvaging your friendship, it's nothing but a
futile half-hearted measure which would come nowhere close to
fulfilling the purpose you'd like to think it actually serves.
More importantly, perhaps this episode should teach you a thing
or two about real friendships (not referring to those mickey mouse
friends who are perfectly dispensable) - dumping unworthy and
undeserving muppets as your "friends" are sometimes the best thing
you could ever do in life. After all, it's in times af adversity
that you see the true character of a person...
hi, appreciate your thoughts on this. and you're right, i'm not tt
strong after all, cos if i would, i wouldn't really care what
others thought. :/
actually this was my main question from the very first post.
it's in the last para (sorry maybe it wasn't clear enough):
> How can I mend this friendship?
actually i didn't have a dilemma. it wasn't a yes-no question
abt whether i should, or should not attend her wedding... or
if i shld or shld not be bridesmaid. cos already decided even
before i posted.
more like, what to do now that i've "screwed up". :/
but anyway, i've since apologised to her again, and it's
been sort of resolved. thanks so much for all ur
suggestions.