do you love her? i suggest you take some time to think abt this
seriously before you mention the words "break up". is your
gf really the cause of your stress and emotional drain?
it does come across to me like you have already made up
your mind, and are just waiting for her to piss you off again, so
that you can say, "this is the last straw! let's break up!" sorry
to be frank ah. i hope i'm wrong, of course.
i think break up shld only be the last resort. after you break
up with her, you may feel free and relieved. but that may only be
for a short while. there will still be many loose ends. such as, is
it going to be permanent?
or do you really want a temporary break? are you going to go
back to her again after you've reenergised yourself? you know that
this is not a solution at all. the cycle will just start all over
again if both of you don't communicate. fr what you've said, it
sounds like you feel that she's demanding. but she's not really the
abusive kind. if you still love her, you guys can still work
it out without breaking up.
i feel that some men tend to ignore problems in a relationship
by ignoring them. however, you must be responsible also. just cos
your girlfriend is the one raising the issues, doesn't make her the
"disruptive" one. :/
similarly, just because you don't say anything, doesn't make you
blameless for the problems in your relationship now. both parties
are equally responsible for making things work. happy couples who
are serious abt staying together long term are committed
to solve problems together. they won't ignore them.
if you really love her, try to communicate with her. let her
know how you feel... it's in the way you phrase it... perhaps you
had used an accusatory tone in the past without realising it. you
can say to her "i feel unappreciated in this relationship...." use
the first person... that normally shld put your partner at ease and
she might be more receptive to what you say.
i think there is no point you waiting for the "last straw". if
you don't work it out with her properly, surely that "last straw"
will come very soon. because she wouldn't know how upset you are
about this right?
you have to ask yourself... are you just waiting for the
inevitable? i.e. just waiting for the chance to break up with her?
cos if you are, you better just tell her now. there is no
right or wrong moment to break up. but it would unfair to her, if
you wait for her to screw up first, and then use it as your
excuse to drop the "bomb" on her.