My friend is attached with this guy who is around 7-8 yrs older
than her. She got moved by his care & concern for her as this
guy treats her rather nice..Shower her with attention..even care
about her family..
He can drive her all the way back to Msia for her to visit her
grandparents..help to fix any plumbling probs for her..do simple
household fix etc..
BUT, this guy isn't rich..He's so financially unstable that he
even have problems with his monthly instalments. Sometimes he can
just ask for $$ from my friend directly. Although he is around
30s..but he don't have much savings at all & yet he wanted to
marry my friend. What my friend's concern is that..He don't even
have the $$ to pay for renovation, furniture, wedding expenses
etc.
What my friend proposed was to open a savings account so that
bot can save up tgt..but this guy always proposed to utilized the
$$ for trips, pay off his credit card bills etc. I mean, what's the
use of savings then? It defeats the purpose & intention of my
friend.
Although he isn't that rich, but, he's a generous guy whom
always offers to give out treats to others. Qutoed by my friend "in
the end..we are the ones who suffered whenever he acts
generous"
Though my friend have feelings for him..but, she's in a dilemna
of deciding whether she should stick on to this guy or not
If she chose to stick on = hard life in future, financially
unstable, endless bickerings over $$ issues e.g. utilities
bills
Or should she move on? There's another guy who is financially
stable chasing after her right now.
If u were my friend, what decision will u make?
the real question is not about whether she should move on or
stay on.
rather, it should be this.....
is your friend someone who can go through thick and thin with
the man she loves?
my uncle used to have a wife who married him while he was still
rich. he doted on her a lot and bought her many things.
but when he was down and out, she divorced him and took over
custody of the children.
to me, she's someone who could only share riches with my uncle,
but not sufferings together.
my uncle may be at fault for not being able to manage his
finance more wisely, when he was still rich. but as a wife,
shouldn't she help him save more for the family? and when my uncle
became poor, she conveniently put all the blame on him for their
poverty.
now, that's what i call "cheap".
