if u love her, accept her as she is.
So if you have a child and one day you found out that he/she is
under drug addiction, will you simply let him carry on doing so on
the basis that you should accept him/her because of (your
definition of) love?
TS, ask yourself, what inspired you to quit smoking? Because if
it works for you, it may work for your girlfriend as well. I have
once heard a story, quite an amazing one, from my Physics teacher
about an year ago. He has a friend, a smoker then, who already has
a young daughter, and once they were together watching TV. There
came a wedding scene on screen, and his daughter asked him a
question, a question that changed him for life: "Will you be there
when I marry?" Ever since then, he tried to quit smoking, and he
did it.
Try spending more time with your girlfriend while she's
quitting. You should know that a person requires additional
emotional support during this quitting period (since you've been
through this stage). When she contacts you for a pack of
ciagrettes, don't just SMS "no" and do nothing about it. She must
already be feeling edgy when she has the urge to smoke but doesn't
have any stick on hand. Telling her "no" flatly will only piss her
off even further, especially when it came from her dear
boyfriend.
Instead, tell her you'll arrive 1 hour later (delay) because
you're busy right now and place (no. of sticks she smokes daily
minus a few) ciagrette sticks in the ciagrette pack. Bring along
her favourite snacks, have a small talk with her and do other sweet
stuffs when you drop by. Make her rely on you to provide her supply
of ciagrettes by offering yourself to do so.
The next time she asks you to bring her ciagrettes, extend the
delay slightly (say, from 1 hr to 1 hr 15 mins) and decrement the
no. of sticks in the pack, but let her know how long she has to
wait. This is very important as the wait can get very uncomfortable
if she doesn't know how long it will be. Gradually, she'll realize
she is able to hold out longer than she has expected and will start
to smoke less often, like you do now.
