how? i always can't seem to balance out things well. there was a
period of time i tried to keep to myself abit and he told me he
feels that i'm withdrawing away from him. am i wrong to do
that?
plus, i can't seem to get over his past r/s with one of his ex
and their aborted child. he told me if i break with him cause of
that, it will be the worse decision i made. he say he'll help me
get over but... i seriously don't how to get over that fact. he
still sometime will think of her and that child. but he explain
that he no longer dwell in the past anymore?
how do i interpret that explanation???
the logic is like this, be yourself, this is top priority, then
if get along with ur bf, fine carry on the relationship, if you
don't, just get away, you don't owe anything or resposiblity to ur
bf, since he said he will get you over, make a try. There is no
rationale in relationship, if you r happy with him, be with him, if
not walk aways, the sky is still blue, maybe you could elaborate
some details of what happen in the relationship, make you so
unsecured, so as far as my understanding, he somehow think of his
ex, and their child, the abortion of the child enhance the memory
of the relationship between him and his ex, which he feel somehow
regreted, make a try, or take a break, calm down apart from each
other, think do you really feel so bad without each other, and give
your bf sometime to figure it out, does he care more about you or
his ex, or his aborted child.
But there is one thing, sometimes, your bf have a beautifull
memory with his ex, your cannot vanish it. Anyway they break up, he
is with you now, but think this way if you have a ex bf, and have
pretty good time with him, will you somehow remember some
beautifull moment with him, yes, you will, so the thing
is it's not so wrongful just keep that in mind, as long as he
didn't really reconnect with his ex, it's ok, the longer time he
spend with you, the more happy moment he will have spend with you,
then he will probably forget his ex more.
