I feel sorry for you that you have this personal grudge against
your parents and your actions, behaviour are completely
self-centered and selfish.
DO YOU REALLY HAVE TO RETURN FIRE BACK TO YOUR PARENTS?
No matter what mistakes they did when they brought you up, it
doesn't means that THEY DON'T LOVE YOU. Just because they did not
pamper you or love you in the way that you wanted, doesn't means
that they don't love you. So please don't come here and mislead
other forumers with your one-sided story okie?
If your topic start post was neutral and was really a plead
for help, I would have replied better. But instead when I read your
topic start post, it contains really disgusting words and
suggestions and ill-intentions that you had for your parents. This
is really really disappointing for me to even read it coming from a
teacher. What you have written doesn't tells people that you are a
sensible human being, it just tell others how ungrateful you are as
a child of your parents, you should be ashamed of yourself!
Like I've said, you don't have to seek revenge or be calculative
about the amount of love, care that you should be showing to your
parents. When you calculate love, it isn't love anymore, love has
already became hatred. I'm sure your parents are also disappointed
in what you have become, and they must have their own reasons to be
extra strict with you, and I can see why it is necessary for them
to do so. Cos you NEVER LISTEN to take in enough of what others
have said and self-realised to change yourself, and you have always
been insensible even till this age!
You need to let go of whatever that has already happened in the
past and your childhood, and you have a choice not to allow and
surrender to your past to make you become a vengeful, wretched
person. This is definitely not what your parents would have wanted
to see you become!
The more you tried to fight back against your parents, the more
unreasonable they would be with you, and I have no doubt about
that. IT's not that they are wrong, they are just trying to bring
you back to them....the real you that is supposed to be kind,
grateful, loving and respectful to them, NOT LIKE THE WAY YOU ARE
NOW!!!
You also have a brain and you can also think of the options that
you can take. Would you prefer to continue to fight against your
parents by holding onto the past grudges till the time they leaves
you forever? OR Would you have at least tried to show them that you
are BETTER than what they have brought you up to be, and show them
LOVE, RESPECT, GRATITUDE to make them feel happy but also a little
bit sorry for mistreating you?
You called yourself a teacher, and you're supposed to be
educating the children in your job, SO WHY AREN'T YOU SENSIBLE
ENOUGH TO EDUCATE YOURSELF FIRST???
Don't destroy the honourable image of a teacher with your
shallow mind and past. People who can be a teacher should have
better moral values than just plain academic
qualifications. Did you not went through an interview before you
got admitted to be a teacher? What lies did you pull to get through
the interview?
If you can't understand and solve this problem between you and
your parents, then I wonder how your in-laws would've thought of
you as their daughter-in-law and how the hell did your husband even
wanted you to be the mother of his future children? Is he not
afraid that you might do the same thing and be calculative to his
parents and even to him in the future?
I believed this is only possible if your in-laws have no clue of
what is going on between you and your parents and you and your
husband hide all the crucial facts to yourself only to protect your
own reputation so that everyone can always see that you are
RIGHT.
You can continue to deceive the forumers in here and gain many
empathy from them to satisfy your own undeserving self. Ultimately
you are the one who will not get helped if you do not want to get
real help. You can continue to enjoy all the empathy from
others to make yourself seems so right....only temporarily.
The problem still exists and it lies within yourself, so if you do
not want to help yourself and be a better child to
your parents, then you will NEVER be a better wife to your husband,
better daughter-in-law to your in-laws, better mother to your
husband future children. Your life will be so wretched and
full of endless transgression from your loved ones because you're
selfish, calculative, self-centered, and insensible.
Let go of yourself and allow yourself to be TRICKED by me even
for once, and listen to me and show love, respect, gratitude to
your parents. Show them you can change and you want to change for
them.
Your parents will not be with you forever, you should be sad if
they ever going to leave you. What does your husband think if his
parents one day also leave him? You maybe don't want to listen to
me, but at least listen to your husband if you truly LOVE him and
not use him as a lifeboat to hang onto after jumping ship on your
parents.
IF I don't care about your post in here, why do you think I even
bothered to write so much about my own thoughts to share with you?
I could've easily feed you with plenty of hatred for your own
parents and drop you even harder than anyone else could in your
future when you eventually realised the importance of your parents
in your life. Do you really think I'm incapable of doing all that
if I wanted to?
Bless your lucky stars that I chose to help you and not to
be wretched and calculative as you to count the numbers of retarded
responses and comments you have made in a few of my posts.
Ultimately it is UP TO YOU to decide the life that you want to
live, I can only and always advise. 
Please leave my job out of this. Doesn't mean that teachers
don't have difficult parents to live with. Are teachers supposed to
be born angels with angels as their parents?
So you want me to respect my parents. May I ask you how should I
respect them? Should I give in to their requests times and again,
and hold my banquet right now? May I also ask, are you going to be
the one who finance the banquet for me? Also are you going to be
the one who is going to pay for the downpayment for my house?
You are lucky to have parents who treat you well, I don't. It is
easy for you to ask me to forget, if the same thing has happened to
you and is still happening to you, would you still be able to adopt
this higher-than-thou stance?
