im 20, and thinking of going abroad with a guy alone. known him
for less than a month, and went out three times. he seems like a
nice guy and we really get along well. i wish to go on a 2-day
trip with him to get to know him more. am i taking too big a risk?
from friends' experiences..most of their trips overseas with guys
(even husbands-to-be) turned out to be a bad experience. where the
guy took advantage of them and dumped them. what should i do? or
for those who suggests that i go, what are the precautions that i
should take?
There're guys who slept with girls they are interested
in because they like the girl. And they officially became
a couple after having a sexual relationship once. I know some of
these people and their relationship is still going strong up till
this day.
Some girls who think they will only sleep with another guy after
marriage and the issue of preserving their virginity for their
husband who may or may not even exist.
I find this rather absurb. That means if the girl happens to be
sexually violated one day, she should be forfeited of her chance to
get married or have a relationship?
Let's face it. Men are always interested in sex. But not all
men will sleep with any girl they want. All normal men have a
sex drive which they will only satisfy through a girl he has
special feelings for. What is wrong with that? Only a
severely sexually deprived or playboy can sleep with any girl
he can lay his hands on.
"If you love me, you will wait for me" says the girl.
Normally in this situation, the girl is only demanding the guy
to be at her beck and call; plainly not interested in the guy.
"If you love me you will give it to me" says the guy.
The guy is only demanding that the girl sleep with him for
the sake of sex.
Sleeping with the guy or not has to be judged through
feelings. For both the girl and guy. How do you feel about the
guy and does he give you the sincerity and trust you need in
order for you to give in to his sexual advance. I suggest that you
spend more time with him before going on a private trip overseas.
By doing so, you are putting yourself into a very tricky situation
when you have to compromise your desire to learn more about
him.
Go on more local trips. Meet up for movies, dinners,
cycling trips instead. And if he fetches you, insists that you
want to go back to your own home alone at the end of the day.
Do not plunge into a sexual misfit rashly.
Good luck.
