im very fortunate to have a relatively happy,middle-income
family with a roof over my head and decent food for every meal...i
dont expect to find a man who pays for everything... but i wont
want to be with someone who cant afford to let me pamper myself
with MY money and the last i need is to have a guy depending on
me.
and truth to be told, even if the guy is very nice and i like
him but he has got alot of issues such as financial and family
issues which is not going to be resolved in the short term basis,
then i will not bring the friendship to the next level..what i
meant by non short-term basis is for eg, family members whos got
gambling,drinking problems etc...i feel that his problems will
eventually becomes my/our problem esp since if one intend to have a
future togther, like getting married,having children etc
some people may feel that money cant buy happiness...but i cant
survive solely on love and be happy for the rest of my
life...here's my own logic.. you can be happily in love during
dating period and lead a more frugal life, eat at hawker centres
etc during dating period...what about life after
marriage?house,bills,children?you may be happy with leading a
simple and frugal life...but what about your children?for eg, you
cant even afford to buy them a pc for school, or send them to
poly...hence, theres bound to be quarrels over money issues, hence,
no money = definitely unhappy in the long run...
I agree with you.
That's why it is imperative that the proposal ring should be at
least minimum 30k. 
