I dun think tat she is a not decent ger and I had known her for
abt 3 wks..... She is friendly to people at my workplace and i tink
she only treats mi like a normal colleague and friend.... I like
her bubbly personality and not just her appearance.... I will
continue to observe her and see if a relationship
between us is possible.... I will not express my feeling
for her hastily as I am afraid of the consequences if i
fail..... Thanks
Generally, it is not advisable to start an office romance. It is
not encouraged and many discouraging stories have been flying off
the rack to have (I supposed) called your attention to this
supposed "code red" romance.
However, I have a cousin, and she met her boyfriend at her
office. They even went for company trip together in Korea last year
and may be planning to get married next year. They've been together
for about two years so far (I asked her). I'm not sure whether she
has seen his side of relatives, but I met her boyfriend this year
when she brought him to our grandfather's birthday gathering.
So far so good.
I guess so long as the relationship is sustainable, it should be
fine. However, horror stories always occur when the relationships
fail to meet its mark.
Perhaps let's start by getting to know her better as a
colleague? How much do you know of her? And how much does
she know of you? Did she get to see the sweet and
considerate side of you? Are you what she's looking for?
In my humble point of view, I think a relationship that starts
off based on friendship would be more sustainable than whirlwind
romance where one does not spend enough time understanding one
another. Whirlwind romance may be passionate and hot at first, but
sizzle out quickly afterward and perhaps give rise to what you
call, the ugly side of office romance. That's just my two cents'
worth.
Jia you!