okay so here's my story..
i dated this senior of mine for half a year before he asked me
to be his gf and i of course, agreed..our journey of love together
lasted for about two and a half years before we went separate ways
due to a stupid and childish misunderstanding...it
wasnt actually this misunderstanding that caused the whole break up
but probably accumulated anger and resentment towards each other.
he deleted me off his msn list and we never actually stayed in
contact ever since then.
after the break up, he still reads my blog
everyday but i dont know if this was because my blog was
'nice to read' or that he wanted to be updated on my life..for me,
i thought of him everyday and ways on salvaging this
relationship....till now, after 9 months, i havent fully gotten
over him...all i wish is that one day, he would be back by my side
again...
then a miracle happened, recently..he contacted me
again, saying that he misses me and realised that he still loves me
after so many things happened..
we eventually patched and went out together, on the same
day.
we held hands, we hugged, we kissed, we displayed our
affection for one another almost like nothing happened and
that we have never left each other for 9 months. we were just like
any other loving couple on the streets of orchard road. but after
we went home that day, he told me that his feelings for me
arent as strong as before..
the next day, he said that its better for us to stay as
friends as it would be very unfair to me....i appreciate
his understanding towards my feelings but i really hoped that we
would be together once more, i believe that this is just a
temporary feeling and if we were given more time, we would
definitely be like in the past..afterall, for an ex-couple to be
together again after 8 months without contact and still claiming
that they love each other is quite miraculous..
personally, i feel that a love like ours should have never
ended..
so whats your take on this? is it just wishful thinking on my
part? any suggestions what i should do? thanks a lot.
May I know roughly what the stupid and childish misunderstanding is
and who started it?
Who told you he still reads your blog everyday and if it was
from him, can his words be trusted?
then a miracle happened, recently..he contacted me
again, saying that he misses me and realised that he still loves me
after so many things happened..
we eventually patched and went out together, on the same
day.
we held hands, we hugged, we kissed, we displayed our
affection for one another almost like nothing happened and
that we have never left each other for 9 months. we were just like
any other loving couple on the streets of orchard road. but after
we went home that day, he told me that his feelings for me
arent as strong as before..
the next day, he said that its better for us to stay as
friends as it would be very unfair to me
Perhaps you are much more into him than he is into you, perhaps
it would be better for the both of you to stay friends meanwhile
rather than rushing headlog into the relationship.
If he's the one for you, only time will tell.
Meanwhile, go out there and make more other friends. If he does not
feel the pressure from you to want to re-ignite the relationship
again, who knows that might actually free him from the pressure of
needing to make a decision and cause him to come back to woo you
all over? In my humble point of view from your description of story
above, I think both of you have been rushing it. Intimacy (if you
want it for the long term) cannot be rush. After 9 months of break,
it is unwise to assume that he had never change. You should treat
him like a normal friend first instead of letting him get so close
to you by hugging, kissing and touching. No matter how much he said
he is into you all of a sudden, as a girl, I think it is wiser to
step back and let his actions convince you instead of just taking
in all his words at once and perhaps imagining a future with him
straight away. This would prevent this one-day love affair and your
confuse feelings, and allow a slow build-up to a relationship if he
is truly the one for you.
However, you will also need to understand that it is not fair
for him to just come and go like that. If this is his tendency, you
might want to come to terms that he might not make a good choice of
partner for you after all.
Instead of allowing both of you to be so confuse (he seem like
one confuse person too), why not within your own
power decide what you truly want for yourself? What kind
of relationship do you want? Is he suitable? If he is not, take him
out of the picture.
Make more new friends and meet up your old friends. You
might just be pleasantly surprise (no matter how much you feel for
this guy currently) that there's someone out there who sweeps you
off your feet and touch you deeper than you have ever known.
I guess this is call meanwhile. C'mon, you need
a break too!
Regards.