cant you see i have done no wrong? if anything i would be
forsaken by them. its not like i'm married and my wife says
"throw your parents out, they are annoying" and i do so. If that
was the case, I'D THROW MY WIFE OUT of the house.
perhaps your best friend has HIV. your parents strongly object
you from being close to that person. would you accede to your
parent's request knowing it is wrong to abandon your friend in his
hour of need?
tension is expected. but you forgive your parents that they are
blind and hope one day they will understand and forgive you. i only
hope to make them see. but if the worst case scenario happens, i
will just have to try to make the best of it. knowing that i have
not taken the easy path. do you get my point?
if some of you were fathers, would you really interfere with
your son or daughter's relationships? remember you are not your son
or daughter. i'm sure you know people have married against their
parent's wishes and have had happy lives. should they have obeyed?
people have gone out to live happy lives doing things they love
against their parent's wishes.
<fictional example>
"Son, I am a doctor so you should study medicine."
"Dad, but I love ballet."
"Son, you embarrass me. why don't you just be a good man and
study medicine. you will have money and respect."
I agree we should give weight to our parents wishes. But when
they are so obviously wrong in cases like these. How can you
comply?
Be it about anything. If i do not know, I will follow my
parents. If I am not sure, I will follow my parents. If I am sure,
I will give my parents the benefit of the doubt. But now I am 100%
sure, therefore my position cannot be compromised.
In my father's shoes, he feels that all this is an embarrassment
to him. I know it.
If I were in his shoes, I'd tell the boy to learn all he can
about Islam. Follow her family to fast. To make sure he understands
what his life would become if he were to convert. I would then give
him my blessings. For he is my son, he is not me.
I will try my best now to get them to like my girlfren. But if
they remain hostile. i can only hope one day they can find in
themselves the heart to forgive.
