Dealing with a possesive gf

last SG · 2008-07-24T10:03:29+00:00

I guess your friend will have to be strong and break it off instead of leading her on. No matter how you do it (to break up), it will always hurt. It's bet...

Pitot SG

It is difficult to do so since he family has some real problems.

And it is always difficult to do so with his position. Her friends all same pattern one la.

look at the previous posts by some of the forumers, all very valid points.

Beautiful951 SG

Well, I think that it is more advisable to marry her. She is probably feeling insecure.

Pitot SG

kendoboi SG

Well, I think that it is more advisable to marry her. She is probably feeling insecure.

Well, if he were to ask him to marry her, it might be worse. All because she's going to gain more control over him. Well, it's all down to how well and controlled she is and how she's feeling. Right now, perhaps she's just isn't at the right state of mind

kendoboi SG

It is difficult to do so since he family has some real problems.

And it is always difficult to do so with his position. Her friends all same pattern one la.

look at the previous posts by some of the forumers, all very valid points.

Hmm, i didn't read previous post because i only intended to give my own opinions. Anyway, i just hope that he do try, if not, troubles is going to be endless

wonderamazement SG

that girl has some insecurity issues man.

Beautiful951 SG

If so, then maybe they should think about that before doing the dirty deed.

Pitot SG

Hmm, i didn't read previous post because i only intended to give my own opinions. Anyway, i just hope that he do try, if not, troubles is going to be endless

dont worry, i understand.

sometimes, the shit hits the fan.

parn SG

I'm a girl and yet I think you are really naive to make the generalization that "no girls want to have sex before marriage".

There are girls out there who offer herself to the guys just to satisfy the sexual urges in her (yes, girls have them too, we are humans as well). If both parties are consenting and adults, then that's their own business. It is nobody's fault, be it the girl or the guy.

And yes I agree this issue is for discussion in another thread. This thread is about the girlfriend being possesive and not about how she feels regarding sex.

You will need to follow the thread first and understand why the topic was extended into this discussion first before telling me that my posts are invalid to this topic.

I do not agree with the TS that his friend is the victim in his current situation. And I believed that if TS's friend refused to agree to have sex before marriage, he wouldn't have gotten himself into his current situation.

Do remember that TS is sharing the story about his friend, and I believed the story is being told to the advantage of TS's friend. So it is always wise to use your own discretion and advise.

If you only choose to listen to the one-sided story posted by TS, then you are truly naive to hold onto that story as the truth to judge the entire situation.

People with discretion will seek and question the truth behind every story, and people without it are just naive and easily swayed into giving blind advices.

You are a girl and you telling me that TS's friend girlfriend is really behaving in this manner for no reason?

Do you really think that if TS's friend were really innocent and didn't do anything wrong that led to his current situation, would TS even need to seek further advice from here?

Guilty...and only people with guilty conscience would need to seek further advice to get themselves out of their dilemma. People with clear conscience won't even need to think thrice about taking appropriate actions to resolve this matter as soon as possible.

If I'm moderator, I will locked this dishonest thread from the beginning. The intentions from posting this topic was already wrong from the beginning, if you can realised you have been misled to believe the details as the truth.

And what makes you think you can come in and correct me when you did not even tried to analyse the situation genuinely and offers half-hearted advice to TS?

So do you think you did your best in your post to help TS....or yourself?

Beautiful951 SG

If I'm moderator, I will locked this dishonest thread from the beginning.

lucky you are not a mod

Although I agree that the guy is at fault too. I agree that if the guy do not do such things before marriage, things would not grow to such an extent.

But I do think thats there is a reason to allow this thread to continue. A mod has the power to lock a thread and it should be used well. Closing a thread because you don't like it is not being fair.

parn SG

lucky you are not.

neither are you.

Beautiful951 SG

neither are you.

Glad we agree.

parn SG

lucky you are not a mod

Although I agree that the guy is at fault too. I agree that if the guy do not do such things before marriage, things would not grow to such an extent.

But I do think thats there is a reason to allow this thread to continue. A mod has the power to lock a thread and it should be used well. Closing a thread because you don't like it is not being fair.

Really? You really think the guy is at fault too?

Then please share from your perspective what kind of other faults did the guy commit?

How would you rate the guy in terms of being a boyfriend? Would you have done better than him? What would you have done in his place?

I didn't read anyone mentioning about the faults the guy did, and Ohh...maybe it's because I have been reading too many blind advices in the thread?

Of course there is absolutely a reason for this thread to continue now, cos blind people are slowing getting cured. And TS's friend is definitely not getting an easy way out of this as I expected.

Giving advices without any form of discretion, that's not fair, naive, selfish and very very irresponsible behaviour.

Pitot SG

seriously, get over it instead of forcing your opinion on others.

Beautiful951 SG

Really? You really think the guy is at fault too?

Then please share from your perspective what kind of other faults did the guy commit?

How would you rate the guy in terms of being a boyfriend? Would you have done better than him? What would you have done in his place?

I didn't read anyone mentioning about the faults the guy did, and Ohh...maybe it's because I have been reading too many blind advices in the thread?

Of course there is absolutely a reason for this thread to continue now, cos blind people are slowing getting cured. And TS's friend is definitely not getting an easy way out of this as I expected.

Giving advices without any form of discretion, that's not fair, naive, selfish and very very irresponsible behaviour.

Well you do have many questions.

Then please share from your perspective what kind of other faults did the guy commit?

I think that he did that nonsense with her, and then threw her to one side when she wanted him to take responsiblity.

How would you rate the guy in terms of being a boyfriend? Would you have done better than him? What would you have done in his place?

I don't know him presonally, so I don't think I am able to answer.

I didn't read anyone mentioning about the faults the guy did, and Ohh...maybe it's because I have been reading too many blind advices in the thread?

Just a little higher Parn. A little

Of course there is absolutely a reason for this thread to continue now, cos blind people are slowing getting cured. And TS's friend is definitely not getting an easy way out of this as I expected.

In aunt angony part of the forums, it does not seem right to delete all the posts that you don't find right. Because if they wish to seek help, and you don't want to give it, give others a chance. Maybe they have the answer you don't expect.

Giving advices without any form of discretion, that's not fair, naive, selfish and very very irresponsible behaviour.

And may I ask why?

I agree with pitot you are welcome to your own opinion. And you are welcome to say it. But don't force it down other's throats.