Just a personal experience~~
Four years ago, I was supposed to go to the States for my
uni studies; it's something I have always wanted, especially I
can do my fave course i.e. Psychology. But, I just started a
relationship at that time, so obviously my bf wasn't too keen on me
going. As the due date for entry drew nearer and I am still in
Singapore, I knew that I would be staying after all. There were no
quarrels whatsoever, my bf only replied me one sentence, "If you go
to the States for studies, the day you left is the day this
relationship ends".
My dad offered to go to the States with me to get the enrolment
done before the dateline, but I didn't reply him, though he asked
me repeatedly for days. Ultimately, I didn't go. I didn't check out
how my parents felt, because plainly, I don't have the courage.
My bf wasn't appreciative at that time and felt it was 'li suo
dang ran' that I should stay. I took up Finance for my uni here;
but it sure wasn't a course I love.
Up till today, I am still wondering how things would have turned
out if I have really left that time. Up till today, I still do have
this regret of not going. Especially when Finance is just not my
passion.
My bf wasn't the type to try out a long distance relationship;
neither is he able to take such things.
Ironically, two years back his buddy wanted to go to
Aust to further his studies after having save up the
funds while working for a few years. His gf wasn't keen on
maintaining a long term relationship either. My bf stood up
for his buddy and ask me to persuade the gf
to 'allow' his buddy to go. Frankly, I didn't persuade,
because I don't have the right to, I gave up my trip for
him!
Ultimately, the gf relented after repeated assurance by the bf,
and now, they are maintaining the relationship via long distance.
Distance does make the heart fonder from what I see from them.
Actually, put it more plainly, it's not hard for the one
who's here, it's actually harder for the one who's leaving; because
the one who's leaving is leaving all the family, friends and loved
ones behind to go to a foreign land; having to adapt all over
again.
It may not be easy to maintain a long distance
relationship; but if you don't try, you'll never know. If end
of it all, everything turns out well, congrats. If things dun turn
out well, be optimistic, at least you both tried.