whats wrong with me??

Poolman SG

i gave my opinion as a person , not as a profession of a cabby , get it right leh , Mauri .

I am off duty as far as i am now in Auntie Agony is concern .

xavier1979 SG

Reflect on what your ex-bf said. Is it the truth?

If it is, it will do you good to change so that you can be a better person.
If it isn't, then it is a matter of change of . The chemistry is gone. You have to move on.

ShrodingersCat SG

actually its probably a silver lining.

Think about it.. in 5 years, you have lost contact with most of your friends, lost interest in other aspects of life besides him, and learnt to depend and focus mostly on your exbf for the 5 years.

Now, finally, you can start getting a grip back on life again learn to make friends AND keep them, learn to focus on interests, hobbies, meaningful objectives for yourself.

it is a time for you to relearn looking at the bigger picture and seeing how you can fit into it, rather than carving a small comfortable niche and pretend the rest of the world don't exist because its so cosy in here.

And if you manage to walk out of this, I am sure you will be a far more confident, attractive person than before.

Just that suddenly walking out can be a scary thing. So perservere and good luck.

Battlecrusier SG

time will heal all wounds. forget him and move on. just treat it as a memory and treat it as a experience.

OH-FF SG

Exams 1st , i told my GF to find her own things to do while I study for Exams.

newcomer SG

so ur saying a taxi driver is only good at driving? y u got something against taxi drivers? think they're stupid? good for u marizio!

some taxi drivers should refrain from giving advice.

she is having her exams dodo!

you shouldn't be asking her to spend her time thinking about what went wrong.

you want her end up like taxi driver like you?

think you should just drive taxi, because you are good at it, stop telling her to think about where she went wrong when she is having exams.

Midlusionz SG

When it gotta go, it gotta go .. No point holding on .. Finish your exams and decide what u really wan.

wonderamazement SG

some taxi drivers should refrain from giving advice.

she is having her exams dodo!

you shouldn't be asking her to spend her time thinking about what went wrong.

you want her end up like taxi driver like you?

think you should just drive taxi, because you are good at it, stop telling her to think about where she went wrong when she is having exams.

nothing wrong with being a taxi driver... i believe TS i able to handle this situation well enough.

Hanagata SG

exam come first.... relationship comes later

muffincakes SG

To muffincakes,

“he has been taking care of me and pleasing me for 5 years that he does not know himself anymore and want his space and time.”

Do you seriously understand what is your bf trying to tell you?

Maybe I should explain.

He is telling you that all this time when you ordered him around or scream at him he just allows you to do it because he thought that is was love, until he could no longer take it anymore.

He is asking himself on why should I be a dog and laugh at by others?

of course he also ordered me ard and scream at me too. of course he controlled me too, saying i can't go home late, or meet guy friends. which i was totally fine with.

RedizAlertz SG

When a party wants to end a r'ship, any (all) kinds of reasons & excuses wll surfice, jus so one cld end tis r'ship as swift as possible.

I had a fren who had similiar experience as u, muffincakes..Her case was no better, at least u dun live together..She lived at her boyfren's home (for she is a foreigner) & they were abt to get married until the guy had a change of mind..the rest is history. She was suicidal then..but still, she has to learn to stand on her 2 feet - with the help of frenz & relatives of cos. & im pleased & proud to say tat tis fren of mine is doin great being independent now. ^-^

Of cos, it sux to know tat breakups always happen ard exams corner (cant explain y either), & make it hard for the other party to focus on the comin exams. It kindda needs motivation + determinations to be able to do tat well. But Im sure once u think it thru, u can focus on ur exams. Not worth it havin to retake ur exams over someone who doesnt love u anymore. Think it over & make it fast, so tat u can focus on ur exams.

Best of luck. ^-^v

HuaGe SG

hi friend, i know is damn hard to get thro this period of time esp u ex ended u 5 yr of r/s. i found him is kinda not understanding enuff, why choose time to break up with you. Poor you, u must be suffering alot. i knw how u feel and exp right now...seriously, you take care...i can't help u much cos i dun even know u..but hopefully you can concentrate on u exam meanwhile...jia you!

Q.C.Pak SG

my boyfriend broke up with me after 5 years. he said that he has been taking care of me and pleasing me for 5 years that he does not know himself anymore and want his space and time.

he said he don't love me anymore, and want me to just leave him alone. he said he wanna do stuff without anyone stopping him or controlling him. he said i talked too much about the future and he's scared of it. he said i pressured him too much, planned for him too much. he said he doesn't think that he loves me anymore.

so for 3 days after that dreadful day, i smsed him, called him, met him to beg him to not do this and that we could work things out. yet he still do not want to change his mind. finally, i stopped.

now, i just do not know what to do. i mean, 5 years gone like that? isn't that crap? i asked him how long does he need, and he said he don't know and don't wish to give me hope.

should i just like get over him? or wait? when i do get to speak to him, he has this anger over something i do not know. and now it seems i also lost a friend in him.

i tried to do other stuff, go out with friends. but the truth is, i do not know many people, because during that 5 years, i didn't really like try to keep in contact with them all. and the friends i'm close with are leading their lives, with their bf/gf, working.

i'm still studying and the worst part is i'm having my exams now. so basically, i'm at home, supposedly self studying, when actually i'm just staring into space and thinking about him.

and it doesn't help that he lives like 10 blocks away from me and sometimes, i would just go down and like sit under his block, wishing i could just get a glimpse of him, like a freaking stalker.

what should i do? whats wrong with me?

He's not ready to commit, move on...

Karma88 SG

I think you should finish your exams first then talk about the relationship .

Cause i had a friend who drop out of poly cause her boyfriend of 3 years broke up with her then she cant study and stuff .

I know it`s diff. to finish your exam while always thinking of him . After all it`s 5 years . But dont forget that your studies always comes first .

And who knows look on the bright side . Maybe after a while he`ll come back to you . So GOOD LUCK .

^C ^ SG

There are always many reasons behind a break up. It isn't one or two things that lead to the split. Rather than pointing fingers or figuring out the cause of the break up and worrying what will come next into your life, do the first thing first. Place your importance on your exams first. You don't have much energy to spend on now.

mancha SG

Take advantage of the situation, and concentrate on your exams, (consider this your lucky break). After the exams, then, see how it goes.

Exams first.

Livent82 SG

From the worse perspective, think your boyfriend have another girlfriend already. All of his explaination is just a dull excuse. Another possibility i think is maybe he really found some problem in himself, for example the economic or physical aspect.

ghast. SG

i'm sorry but i gotta say maye you've pushed him alittle too far such that he's already reached his limits. he probably finally learnt to be selfish and love himself for once. you gotta learn to love him, not yrself anymore

Lefti68 SG

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