Hi guys, my first entry for aunt agony as I need advise on how
to deal with this problem.
I have a not so serious yet adversely affective problem.
I have a friend, namely 'G'. Knew him since Secondary School and
he is notorious for picking fights due for being GL(guai
lan) and having a LJB(lan jiao bin). Many others disliked him
too at that point of time.
Past
I have long disliked him but have avoided him instead of
confronting him, in the past he would go: "Which part of you is
better than me? Sports, academic or what?" Being, the good boy I
am; logically I avoided him because he was so ego-fat.
Truth to speak, I wasn't excellent in any and he was average on
both. We were friends but he was using me for company and other
monetary uses. You see, he likes to borrow money and not
return.
Present
In due to the fact that I've been avoiding him(I switched school
because I moved house so I haven't seen him in a couple of years),
I was approached by his mother's friend recently and was asked to
ask for his contact.
MSN
Conversation
SO i spoke to him on MSN and the conversation went on. Firstly I
asked how was he and he said he was studying in a certain ITE. I
did not bring him down on that and had forgotten about the grudges
I held. I asked how was it and we had a common hobby which was to
play mahjong. I have long since been looking for players to fill in
sometimes and I thought it would be great for an old friend to join
in. I bragged a little on the wins I had in mahjong. I asked
about his mum who claimed she was admitted into a hospital(My
mother's friend said so). He said there was no such thing. After
that we exchanged contacts and made tentative agreements on a
mahjong game. I also claimed that my friends were steady - that
they play any amount. Also said that I was taking my licence.
All of the conversation which were catching up and pretty much
casual
Afterwhich
Today I heard that my GF's friend knows him(surprisingly they
were in the same class) and they just spoke
and he said I was being very guai lan. I have no
idea what has caused such a insult. This has caused unrest and
a relapse of my hate for him has emerged. I believe he has always
seen me as inferior to him, but I beg to differ, over the years I
have matured(not for me to judge) and I have logically consulted my
inner-self and which is not to confront him face to face.
Let me explain the connection, I have a face off with him; he
tells my GF's friend, tells me GF. I don't want to leave any bad
impression but wish to squeeze him under my thumb in a more
fool-proof way.
Thus I wish to consult
the scheming forumers to plot something for me. And in typing this
I think I have released some of my anger-tension and also need
some ideas/opinions on what to do?
On
myself
My friends know that I do not anger easily and the reasons I
anger are never personal reasons, either because I feel that my
family members/friends are threatened or insulted or I think the
person is being unreasonable.
In this case I think the person is being unreasonable and also
personal reasons. You see; G has picked on me when I was in
Secondary School and that has left me with unintented hate. So much
so that he is on my 'to-kill-list'. But that would be plain stupid,
as he is not worth the consequences.
Personally
I believe that his actions are due to the fact that I was hmm,
bragging I suppose? But I did humble myself as I know that he is
not one to brag to about. I'm doing alot better financially and
academically then he is but I'm sure he hasn't heard much about
either. So I have no idea what has caused him to bad-mouth me, and
if it's anything I hate I hate people to bad-mouth me behind my
back. My view is that, if you have anything to say, you say it in
my face; don't be a wussy and say it behind in fear of a
retaliation.
Do advise,
Tim
