The chinawoman is doing nothing wrong, its only that you do not
like what she is doing. I think she is doing a good job enriching
herself and benefiting her family.
Your dad, on the other hand is the one who is not doing the right
thing.
So you should talk to you dad. If he is aware, he’ll realise that
he is in a major dilemma, of which he cannot get out of. That
chinawoman got him trapped. His business, the house, the marriage,
he is trapped good. The alternative for him is to deny his
stupidity, and enjoy the flattery of the chinawoman while she
skillfully milk him.
Do you know the story of the frog and the scorpion?
The frog was carrying the scorpion across a stream, and the
scorpion stung the frog. The frog ask “Why did you sting me, I am
helping you across the water?” The scorpion replied,”I am a
scorpion, I do what scorpions do.”
What is the chinawoman doing? What is you dad doing?
I find your logic is kinda twisted. It's like saying that it's
perfectly acceptable for a psychopath to go around raping girls
simply because they are who they are and are just doing what they
need to satisfy their own desires, whereas the blame gets pushed to
girls who don't carry a pepper spray in their handbags or walk in
dark alleys.
The analogy, "The Frog and the Scorpion", though interesting,
but does not fit into the situation TS' father is in. Let me post
two links here for those who wants to know more about it.
http://allaboutfrogs.org/stories/scorpion.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Scorpion_and_the_Frog
The objective of the whole story can be summarized as "to
illustrate the purportedly insuppressible nature of one's self at
its base level". I don't think "milking money out of SG men" is
part of an insuprressible nature of PRC women, or any woman out
there. It can be a motive, an intention, but definitely not
something embedded in any human's genes.
And to TS, I don't have much advice for you, but tell your
father what your grandmother had told you. If you do not wish to
put her in a spot, you can always convey the events as a third
party. Instead of saying "Po-po say that old bitch bullied and
screamed at her", you say "Last night, I saw that old bitch builled
and screamed at Po-po!" (you have to actually be there at that
point of time, of course).
And you asked, "what if Po-po doesn't want to pour out her
grievance to me after I spill the beans to Dad?" So be it. At least
you gonna expect him to do something serious about it, because it's
like, hello, she's your dad's mum? I won't say the same if he's an
unfilial bastard though. And it's definitely better than knowing
that she's suffering day after day yet doing nothing about it.
