I realise my (ex?) girlfriend is too friendly to other people,
to the point of ignoring me, her boyfriend. While friendliness is a
virtue, I believe one must be selectively friendly. After all,
haven't we encountered people who are distant to us but be super
close to another?
For instance, when I am with her and I am talking to her about
stuff, if she sees a friend (close or not close), she would just
say hi and start talking to the other person, totally ignoring the
fact that I have NOT ended my conversation with her YET. And once
it ends, she didn't even bother asking me to resume.
Once, she happen to befriend a guy playing the piano in the
piano room. Or rather, she was befriended by the guy. (The
guy looks like a 'player') I sat there and read the papers, she
knew I was there and she kept on talking to the guy. Then, she went
out with him some more to watch a performance. On the FIRST day
they met. I have been asking her out and she keeps giving me lame
excuses, like busy or no money. After that, she still got the mood
to sit and chat with him till midnight.
Then, the piano guy keeps on coming, like trying to meet her.
There was once me, the girl and another person were talking and I
could see her giving a glance to the guy playing the piano.
Upon returning to the gym (after 30 minutes, as I didn't feel
well), I saw her AT the piano lounge, with the guy
playing. Didn't expect her to return so soon. She said, she
wants a break from work. Then, there was another occasion he came
to play, on the pretext of 'teaching' her, up till midnight. She
promised to come over to my room after it's done and it took her
two hours to do so. Fortunately, he's no longer around. But then
again, she's no longer around (in Europe doing some student
exchange programme). Coincidence?
Along the way, till now, I realised that she has always been
giving me the cold shoulder. Each time she comes online, I say hi
to her, and it always takes a long time (sometimes 10 mins or so)
to say hi. I say something, and the only thing she says is those
one-word replies like haha, lol, i c . She rarely speaks
to me about a lot of stuff. Funnily, when her ex and other friends
(usually desperate males) talk to her online, she can rival this
long post in terms of word count. And her response was lightning
speed, unlike mine which is akin to snail mail. Furthermore, she
classifies some of her new friends (i.e. those that she got to know
after heading to student exchange) under 'friends' whereas mine is
lumped under 'other contacts'.
When I ask her what's going on, she doesn't want to say. She
always says it's 'private'. Funny how she spills out these problems
to her pals. And funny how a lot of her pals know of her blog,
which she has kept secret from me. She says 'a lot of private
matters in it', which is why she doesn't want to
disclose. Then, why tell others? Isn't 'private' affairs
a personal thing in which NO ONE else is involved, not even
pals?
When I asked her once whether she loved me and is my gf or not,
she said YES. However, few days ago, she says I don't know her
enough and she wanted to stay single. She wants to return to her
old life. She wants more space and personal time so she
wants me to 'respect the decision'.
Don't know her enough? She doesn't want to share it with me!!
Privacy, she said.
Old life?? When we were going out, she said we were seeing each
other too often, and she hasn't seen her other friends for so long.
Friends??? Friends who don't contact her for so long? Friends who
don't bother sacrificing their sleep to send her off at Changi?
Mind you, I was the only one sacrificing my sleep and my S$20 to
send her off at Changi. Who was the one taking the trouble to send
her the important postage? You think others would care??
Old life?? She thinks she has a lot of close pals...mind
you, these 'pals' are mostly guys. And the same guys would always
appear in her MSN, taking her attention away from mine. Which
explains why it takes 10 minutes for her to give me a one-word
reply. I should say her boobs are large and she does have a
'naive-like' behaviour, which is a turn-on for guys, because when I
saw their faces, they look like fucking losers. Desperate for
girls, perhaps. And some of them are already attached! Why are they
spending so much time with my gf? Why she doesn't say she's
spending too much time with them? Only I got the 'award' of
spending 'too much' time together??
Sometimes, I feel that her friends may be influencing her to be
against me. After all, they all want her, right? And once I
saw one of their messages condemning her 'ex-boyfriend' (i.e.
me) when we were quarreling. Which meant they have a
strong influence on her, stronger than mine. Otherwise, why the
sudden attitude change? Then, one of the guys had the cheek to ask
her if she has met 'any European hunks' on her Facebook. Since he's
not in my friends list, I wouldn't know what she wrote there.
It seems that she is enjoying her life in Europe now.
Ya...getting to know white hunks, f**king them like nobody's
business. To the point where she's forgotten me. If she truly wants
to see me, why the f*** she go and take another module OUTSIDE her
exchange university, forcing her to possibly return later? If she
truly likes me, why give me the cold shoulder when I call or MSN?
She likes giving attention to others only interested in giving her
a f***, whereas I am being the doormat. Sigh...
In addition, she wasn't planning to stay here. She wants to go
to the USA so badly to do her masters, then from there hoping to do
medicine. Moi thinks, if you cannot even get your good results
here, forget about going to angmoh nations. I can't understand why
she thinks USA is the place for her to go, citing good
education, etc...brochures always look better than reality. In that
case, even if she returns, I better be prepared for a ten-inch
black cock to have penetrated her front and back in quintessential
campus parties. If that's the case, get the fuck out of my chink
arse. Remember, her tits are large.
I wonder if she wanted to be my gf in the first
place...I realised that I was the one pushing and she was a
mere willing participant.
Comments, brickbats are welcome. I'll just go bukkake on someone
else in the meanwhile.
I think there's a problem with yourself here, for you do not
even know if you are in/out of a relationship with her. You have a
rather wrong account and I am just surprised that you are
inconclusive on this issue. So my question to you here is: Are you
in/out ?
Don't mind me saying here but I perceive that you are out. On
the fair side, you seem to be sore about the whole thing to such a
sense you seem to loose some logic and sense here. Just because she
has big boobs and friendly doesn't mean that she is loose and
certainly not cheap. What's wrong with being born beautiful and
attractive? Your post here is not only addressing the problem but
your account is leaning towards her being a slut.
In all fairness, as much as you mention the lack of attention on
your conversation (God knows what you are talking about to her and
I doubt if there's anything important - which is your answer of a
light attention); there is also an act of neglect on your part when
she was getting acquainted with that piano guy and what were
you doing? Reading the papers!! I mean what are you doing with the
papers on a date? Trying to read the weather forecast or horoscope
between the both of you?
Your (ex) girlfriend seems to be a smart and intelligent
individual. For what I see, she is a quick witted one and certainly
isn't a cup of plain tea - but rather a cup of Earl's Grey.
Generalize your conversation and you are out of her planet. Has it
ever occurred to you that what you are communicating may be deemed
lame and boring which has been repeatedly mentioned and brought up
by you ? As what you have done here posting repeatedly about her
being friendly with everybody she comes in contact with>>??
Did she not agree in the first place that you are her steady? Gone
out with you one to one and close to you than any other
individual?
I hate to say this but I can't seem to have any reason to stand
at your side of the fence. I just felt that you had let your
emotions get the better of you to even generalize her being a slut
going for other men instead of her pursuit for higher learning.
From what you had posted, she seems to be the pursued rather than
the pursuer. I am just shaking my head how you can misinterprete
and misunderstood her.
I felt that part of her in the USA I think is really uncalled
for and shows the kind of character you are here. Sure speaks a lot
to me here about how much base you have here. BTW do you have any
issues with blacks in US? I think you had better be careful with
what you say here.
I don't want to dampen you here but I think you are out of her
league. She is not your cup of tea. Move on.
