She was the sister of a friend's friend.
Nearly a year ago, We chanced upon each other by accident and we
started keeping in contact via email.
Then there was a slight misunderstanding (she thought i was keen on
someone else) and we didn't really talk for six months.
Recently she asked me out for coffee and in the midst of our
conversation(s), we cleared up that misunderstanding
Since then we've been in contact almost daily, and we've been going
out more frequently (not as frequent as i'd like thou!)
she informs me when she's heading out, lets me know when she's home
from a late night out, etc. I'm pleasantly pleased with this;
When i was contemplating a job offer that would require me to
travel frequently, for a number of years, one of her first
reactions was "does that mean i'll only get to see you in a few
years' time?
its been two months since we caught up with each other again, and
i'm this time, i'm pretty sure she's the one i want in my
life;
A few days back, I tried to sound her out, but I had a feeling that
she knew what was coming (either that or i was over sensitive) for
that meetup was pretty tense.
Things were still the same after that, so i'm pretty glad for
that.
Now I've came to know that there's possibly another guy in the
picture.
but she wouldn't say much, other than that's a friend (she does
have quite a few male friends)
I know i should come clean with how i feel, but is this a good
time, or should i observe more?
One thing i noticed, we tend to think too much for the other party,
and sometimes, this leads to a lack of action by both parties. this
is bad, i know, and i'm working on it.
Can any kind souls please advise?
Cheers,
To be frank, I seriously don't see the reason why you are holding
back your feelings and not telling her your true feelings.
It may be the norm to observe and worry this and then what will
happen to you if she rejects you...but it doesn't really apply to
your case isn't it?
When you feel strongly when you should hold back your confession
towards her, it means your heart is telling you "she's not ready
for it yet / this is not the right time to confess", but.......you
and I know that you should come clean with your feelings with her
now...in fact long ago since now. So what are you waiting for? Lack
of experience in this area perhaps?
If you felt that your relationship with her isn't moving
anywhere, that means one of you need to hold onto your balls and
bring this relationship to the next level. So........go and sort of
confess your feelings to her romantically please......do it like
you would do if you were to "propose" to her ok?
Romance is sweetest when both parties are anticipating for it,
but please don't drag this for overly long cos even the sweetest
candy might taste bad if left un-eaten for too long.
There is no 100% success but you know it's definitely 80-90%
success. So don't come here and tell us your agony when there is
nothing to agonise about.
Just don't drag until somebody else stole her away then you come
here and post your regretful agony, by that time....nobody can help
you....not even me.