My gf and i have been together for almost 9 months. Recently,
she has become a bit quarrelsome and in fact, just had an
argument.
She say's that i'm not a normal guy because:
a) I don't give in to her when we argue
Whenever she get's mad, my job is to make her happy. No matter
who starts any argument, in the end, it's me who says sorry and
make things up.
Dude, why is rubik's cube so popular? Because people consider it
tough nut to crack. The tougher to crack, the higher the level of
appreciation.
Level the argument. Does she have a point or is she just acting
like a brat? If her complains are all singular crap then it's
alright to dismiss them. Tell her to grow up. If her complains are
justified, then ask her more questions, pay her more attention.
There's something i don't understand so help me here: When she
gets mad, she will walk away from me and can don't talk to me for
very long, she can even leave my side without feeling any tinge of
pain. For me, i can't bear to walk away from her, it's just a
nagging feeling. Whenever she gets mad, i just quickly apologize to
solve it asap as i don't want to waste time arguing.
She blames all the fault on me, even though i propose the idea
of "shared blame". She insists it's all my FAULT. She say's i'm
supposed to NOT argue back and just let her throw her accusations
at me and ACCEPT it.
Right off the bat, when any woman starts throwing all sorts of
nonsense and disagreements at you for no solid reason, it usually
means her interest level in you is waning. Either that or PMS. Lie
low and approach target only 6 days later. Don't wussy out and give
in to her. When you guys first got together and the romance was
blooming, there were lesser arguments right?
If you have a strange woman on hand who cannot express herself
calmly and communicate rationally at the level you need, then why
waste so much time? How are you going to live with it for the rest
of your life?
She is very sensitive and can suddenly blow up. It always
happens and i always use a lot of energy to try to reverse the
effects but you know, it gets tiring.
Man, i don't know what to type anymore, my mind is kind of
blank. So, can i have some advice thrown at me?
At this point, perhaps you should take a laid back approach,
figure out the root of her unhappiness. If you are really clueless,
then ask more questions, use your gut to determine whether her
unhappiness is valid or just wanton madness.
Whatever it is, avoid bringing the conversation or exchange to
extreme. Keep it light, keep it funny, make her laugh a lot. Avoid
too much pressurizing relationship talk.
If you are looking at marriage with her and she proves to be a
nutcase, then drop her before you go crazy.
If you really like her and just want to date her even when she
proves to be a nutcase, then just pay her some attention, pacify
the situation and keep it light.
For time immemorial, women have been wanting to domesticate men.
Do not succumb to her every whim at the expense of your own freedom
and joy.
