Shld i let go even if i still love him?

last SG · 2008-02-03T11:46:13+00:00

Best advice : forget him and get to know me LOL

W8 SG

This is my story...i hope im not making a big mistake of my life....I know its long..but pls read....T.T

Im currently with this "boyfriend" who im madly in love with....ill jus name him "W" 20M this yr..

He is trying to decide which gf to choose...between me...19f...and another girl....15f...

The other girl name is clara...they know each other last yr October..in game...

That game i intro W to play...he met her inside....

as time pass by...they train together...

i gt suspicious and i ask the girl if she likes W....

she say im accusing her of being the third party....

and told W about it...

W wants to break up with me in game..(stupid right?hai...)

reason...he is in stress...of family...studies...

clara's character was there...nick(swtraphsody) when he ask for break up...

she was interrupting when we were chatting...

i ask her not to bother us...she replied...

"its a free world...i say wat i like..."

and W kept on tell me that our break up doesnt involve her...

So we break up...after a few days...he said he miss me....i miss him too...i cant let go...(i know..im stupid..)

so we meet up again...and so call gt together..

but i told some of my friends tat i broke up with him...

but when ever i ask him...if we still together...he wont reply...

he ask me to wait for him to decide....so i waited....

we hug...we kiss...even after the break up...

then after a few months...until last few weeks....

i realise he is msg clara....i know they gt msg each other....

but i jus didnt let W know...coz i wan to trust him....

but now...i know he is going out with clara...

but i dunno if they gt meet up...coz im mostly around W..

(same sch...tats y..)

i jus cant help it...tat i love him so much tat i dun wan to let go...

Now...i can confirm they are together...coz clara replied W that she is his girl....

and W trying very hard to keep it from me...the msg and calls to clara...

im trying my best not to ask him...not to remind him...coz i know..if i stress him...everything will be over soon...

he once told me...when i found out about him msg clara..calling her babe and all tat...

he told me he wanted me to wait..even if he have another gf...so tat he will cherish me more next time....

i wanted to wait...i really do....but it hurts...shld i let the girl noe also?

but wat if she wont let him go? wat if she says stuff like i shld let him go...

i think im going crazy even im writing this here....

pls let me know wat i shld do....i dun wan to let go...coz i know i love him..and he still love me...

if not...he wont still be nice and sweet to me...he used to ignore me even when we r together...

i know becoz he 2 timing now tats y he treat me better..but it also means i have a chance right??

Pls....someone tell me wat to do....

W8 SG

for me...i had enough of relationships tat breaks my heart...

i had enough of falling in love....

i dun have much friends....

im scare of lonely...

i know i can find someone better...

but i really had enough~!!

can say coz im not close to my family..not close to friends...all except my bf...

tat is y i cant let him go...

i cant go through the pain by myelf anymore...i dun wan to do silly things...

tats y im asking for help here...

Yuki~! SG

Sometimes it's best to let go, even if you still love him
Trust me, I know

W8 SG

I hope i can...i jus cant do it...

im scare ill be alone again...

seotiblizzard SG

hey no matter how much u hate her.

Its not good to give out other people personal details.

I hope u respect her privacy too and rmb this is a public forum.

thank you.

curryman SG

ur too young to fall in love

Yuki~! SG

hey no matter how much u hate her.

Its not good to give out other people personal details.

I hope u respect her privacy too and rmb this is a public forum.

thank you.

Agreed

Yuki~! SG

I hope i can...i jus cant do it...

im scare ill be alone again...

It's always like that one.
Think about the reasons why you should let go of him.
Cry your heart out the first few weeks, after that, things will be better

soleachip SG

Imho, the main problem is not Clara but Boyfriend. Perhaps you need to decide whether he is trustworthy to begin with. How he reacts to her tells his level of interest and commitment in you.

If you have been asked to play second fiddle while he slow dance with Clara day and night, then the signal box is loud and clear. You're giving him permission to do as he deem fits because frankly, he is fine with you getting out of the relationship.

I don't think he can fall in love with you again babe.

There is no need to worry about letting him go because you're the one who got dumped. Nothing left to do kiddo. Buy a dozen Wild Turkeys, round up some good friends and cry. Let it sink.

Take care.

W8 SG

i know tat...but she is the one who let other ppl noe her hp no.

she is the one who let other ppl know her email..even in game...

i even know her sch..i even know here she lives...

i jus dun wan to go too far...but still...

i know im wrong....

seotiblizzard SG

i know tat...but she is the one who let other ppl noe her hp no.

she is the one who let other ppl know her email..even in game...

i even know her sch..i even know here she lives...

i jus dun wan to go too far...but still...

i know im wrong....

yea.

But she can choose who to give and who to not give her personal details.

u shldnt be giving out the details with out her permission at all.

Yuki~! SG

This should be in AA not Chit Chat

W8 SG

i duno where to post....first time posting something on web also...:(

soleachip SG

Frankly I saw the profile and Miss C does not come across as the type who gives a rat's ass about the publicity. No idea why women always blame other women when things are blatantly obvious - it takes two hands to clap.

Yuki~! SG

i know tat...but she is the one who let other ppl noe her hp no.

she is the one who let other ppl know her email..even in game...

i even know her sch..i even know here she lives...

i jus dun wan to go too far...but still...

i know im wrong....

Even though she doesn't care about the publicity
But still, please don't give out someone's personal details like that
It just isn't right.
Imagine her doing the same thing to you
I bet you'd want to strangle her

W8 SG

well..like i said..i know im wrong...i jus duno wat to do....

Nata|ie SG

Why bother fighting over a guy? Seriously I feel that he's wasting your time. Asking you to wait, while he date a juvenile! For christ's sake, wake up! He can do it once, he can do it twice. I don't know about you, but if I were you, even if we get back together, I wun be able to trust him again.

You are still young, you'll get loads of chances with different guys. So don't waste your time on such a guy. He can be telling Ms C the same thing he told you also.

Love makes someone blind, but at certain times, we need the head to think, not the heart.

=) All the best!

W8 SG

well...from wat i know from all the " so called relationships" i have...

this is the most i dun wan to give up....it is alws new girls come in and a relationship ends...

i think it will keep on continue....tats y i dun believe in love forever anymore...

i can only say reality is really cruel...everytime the better one will win...

and from one of the blogs ive read...

A guy wish he is your first..

A girl wish she is your last...

Its true right??

Nata|ie SG

well...from wat i know from all the " so called relationships" i have...

this is the most i dun wan to give up....it is alws new girls come in and a relationship ends...

i think it will keep on continue....tats y i dun believe in love forever anymore...

i can only say reality is really cruel...everytime the better one will win...

and from one of the blogs ive read...

A guy wish he is your first..

A girl wish she is your last...

Its true right??

Not all relationships end becoz of a third party. Ask yourself, if he is worth it?

Hanging on may not be a good idea, coz in the end you might get hurt even deeper.

LatecomerX SG

Look, if a 15 year old kid from some virtual world can just come in, bitch about you, then steal your boyfriend away, doesn't it show how weak is your relationship you have with him?

Come on, I'm sure there are better guys out there. It's just that you have not crossed paths with one of them yet. Go give him a call later and tell him you're not one of those who like to share. If he still choose to stick with that gal, curse him and end the call. Delete his contacts (MSN, phone, friendster, game, e-mail, whatever) and cut off all communications with him and let yourself to cool down for a few days. If there is any hope for your relationship, you will see him, not you, trying desperately to salvage it. Otherwise, you can forget about it. Because even if you managed to save this relationship solely through your own efforts, such incidents would probably happen for the second time, the third time etc until you are really tired of it and decide to give it up for once and for all. So why not end it now?

Anyway, you said W is "20f". He's...not a guy?