managed to apologise to her, and got her forgiveness today.
went all the way to her place, from boon lay to changi, with a
bouquet of flowers, and some sweets she like, waited for 2hours
till she woke up.
as for that night, i didn't left her to go home alone, because i
knew its her bdae, and she have her sistas to bring her home.
after this forgiveness, i am thinking about the next step, how
to make her officially mine. i think very much depends on
fate i guess.
as for her past, i don't mind, cos all of us have our own pasts
too, the only important thing is about the future, our future. she
is still hesitating with her choices, beside me there is still
other choices(2 are my poly friends), and according to
her, she couldn't make a firm decision cos 'she haven't
love me deep enough', and she 'don't wish to hurt other
parties'...
but there are times when we started talking about 'terms and
conditions' like when we are together as couples, i cannot restrict
her to meet her suitors, but she promise she won't hang out with
them individually. and whenever we went out, we hold hands, kiss,
hug, like couples. its just the name and status i want, why must it
be so 'unofficially'?
yups, it sounds complicated,
i have no choice since i like this girl, i can only continue and
carry on, accepting that whatever its infront of me, be it obsticle
or any other barriers.
thanks everyone for giving me a guide in my this crisis.
pephaps to some of us, love seems to be alittle bit too much for
us ba. =(
Complication? Has it ever occur to you, that much of your
complications are in fact your own undoings? I am glad for your
redemption and sincerely hope that you will be able to prove your
self worth here. I do not want to sound condescending here but you
seem to be a insecure individual here and I can't help to notice
that there is also some hesitation from your g/f- to-be. I think
you may find me a little hard for your liking, and I hope that my
being factual can help you.
As much as I would like to believe that you will not be mindful
of her past and that you will begin this r/s with a new sheet. But
as the saying goes: "Easier said than Done" will be what's on your
"to-be's" mind. From your outburst, I think your magnitude has been
greatly discounted and not forgetting the fact that you may have
already know some of the "unpleasantries" and/or more yet to come -
can anyone be assured that you will be 100% true to your words from
there? I think a lot of us including myself are found to be
impressionist and the impression about you currently is not very
good at all.
I am sure you have heard of the saying: "I can Forgive but I
cannot Forget." And now you may know something of her past and now
if she is to commit to you - the question will be when the both of
you quarrel (don't say that the both of you would not); will you
then bring out the past? Maybe not out from your mouth, but what
about your mind?
Let me clear the air a little for myself and hopefully in the
process clear yours. Your dearly beloved has already been out with
you individually - "whenever we went out, we hold hands,
kiss, hug, like couples" and "she promise she
won't hang out with them (a.k.a. other suitors)
individually". So what in the common sense sake are you
asking for an official status here? Boy, am I
really (or not the least) interested about 'terms and
conditions' like when we are together as couples??!! You
sure sound too bureaucratic to be true here. Are you staking claims
on her here so there will no longer be any applications for her?
What do you want? Something written on her forehead maybe? Have a
life.
If those actions from her can be taken as something else, I
really don't know what to say about you especially your own sense
of security here. Besides, didn't she just forgive you for that
disgraceful outburst of yours? You sure have some senses here or
rather maybe the lack of it. Look I do not know what "OFFICIALLY"
means to you but if she can declare that you're hers truly
certainly is speaking volumes to me. The both of you have a long
way more to go, just relax, give and take. After her poly suitors
there will be others queueing you know? Then what are you going to
do? Lay down another set of terms and conditions? And are you going
for that pre-nuptial agreement as well?
Spare a thought for her, and have a life.
