Well I guess this is the best place to tell my problem and
hopefully you guys can give me some suggestions.
I am 20 this year already, since sec1 when im 13, I like this
gal from the same cca as me, but different class, and she went to
the same JC as me as well, though we took different sub combi and
different cca, but all the way she has been the only girl i
like.
but the problem is, it is not reciprocated, meaning tat she
doesnt like me, she doesnt have any bf before also,
I sort of confessed to her 2 times, once when we are in
sec4, once when we are in JC2, but both times it was
negative.
I know it is time to give up and move on, but I cant forget her.
Its been like 6 years, I am still holding on to some hope I think.
I tried moving on but I cant.
I have done things for her during this period too, I gave her
presents, like during her birthday or occasions, I even made a MV
for her, wrote a song for her too.
I know she doesnt like me, but I cant get her out of my
mind.
Wat shld i do? =(
The reason for not moving on is simply because
there isn't a reason substantial enough for you to drive
forward.
No reason therefore no motivation.
You see, there isn't anyone (or anything) compelling enough for
you to switch your affection. And because your history in love is
pretty much a clean sheet, there is no way your heart can input a
blank statement into something already blank. Honestly, your
subconscious will tell itself '...since there isn't anyone else for
me to redirect my affection and energy into, instead of leaving a
void, by retaining my affection for her, at least my love life
wouldn't feel that empty...'
I can tell you; it's a vicious cycle. When you narrow your
vision, you will always walk straight, without having the ability
to look beyond. Over a period of time, this anomalous way of life
will become a habit and your rationale for behaving in that manner
will be largely influence by implicit memory and habit; no longer
churned from your original intention.
Many 'waiters' feed themselves with all sort of nonsensical
reasons to remain, but the root of their senseless wait often
reveals a very distinctive, self absorbed definition of love.
Instead of evolving from their failure, they rather bathe
themselves in various degree of delusion, thinking that their love
is so overwhelming, that it kept them bounded, and they have must
continue to wait in order to proof the validity of their Love.
I always laugh on this.
Because some people believed that this is a measure of Love and
they reward themselves by waiting longer. Six years? Wah, he waited
ten years - surely must have loved her alot. What you? Twelve
years? Who is next?
I tell you, there is nothing but narcissism in that notion
because this love is simply not reciprocated. Period. It's almost
like you loving yourself, in a one player role playing game - being
both the winner and loser. You conjured your own rule for the
criteria for winning and losing, as you subconsciously decide that
you win by waiting and lose by moving on.
You tied yourself up - learn to release your self captivity by
understanding that Love cannot be forced upon another. 
Cheers
