to be frank, my mind is in a confused stage now, as i’m easily
“xin ruan”.
It is a sad thing that most girls are usually trained to be sweet,
polite and not to antagonize since young. Some jerks (pardon me for
calling your ex that) will see this as an opportunity to come and
take advantage of nice girls like you except
that they are not as obvious as the villians we see on
tv dramas. They can look like normal people and may even be sweet
and caring in their own ways. BUT, the only difference is
that they are taking advantage of you by abusing the trust you
place in them.
In my personal point of view, you can still be that sweet young
lady in your own rights. But the sweetest and most polite
thing you can do now is to totally cut off contacts with him and
not hear from him at all. Nevermind if you think he may be
heartbroken (if he is sincerely heartbroken at
all), cos does he think for you at all that you are disturbed by
all these? Dun worry about him being angry at you, cos these
are none of your fault but his doings. If he curse and swear
at you, that just all the more goes to show his dark and ugly side
rather than yours. You are more of a "victim" than he may proclaim
himself to be.
Steph09,
This shows what a jerk he really is.
He felt indebted to her because of the abortion. Yet he
cheated on her, is this how he pays back his debt.
I wonder how he's gonna pay you for YOUR kindness
?
Think rationally on this point ger. He also must have spoken a lot
of sweet nothings to his prev gf. Just that these are things he
would try to hide away from you or even lie to u about. Think back
on the time he was two-timing his gf and made you a third party
without your knowledge.
we broke up 1 year back. the reason why we broke up was becos he
confessed that he had a gf all along (i was still unaware of the
situation den) and i couldn't be accepting being "the other
woman". many times, he asked me to stay with him but he had no
plans to break up with her. During this 1 year after breaking up,
there are a couple of times that he called and mentioned he saw me
with guys, and he was jealous over that. He feels as though he had
given me away. of cos, during this period after breaking up,
he did, on a few occasions, asked me back but i rejected.
Now, he has broken up with the gf, and has been asking me out.
Did only went out once and afterwhich we had been talking over the
phone frequently. he had been hinting abt getting back, but i
ignore that. now the hint has become obvious and he wants me back.
I'm afraid that history will repeat itself and one thing that's for
sure, i no longer have the
trust and confidence in him. i told him that
i hope we can remain as friends now, and any other things, we shall
talk abt it later.
I'm kinda lost now, apparently he did told me that he's quite
disappointed over my response.
Could anyone give some suggestions on my situation?
If you love yourself, you know truly you deserve better. Remember
your head, heart and guts. Your heart is calling out for a love
that is true. Not FAKE and abusive (yes, emotionally abusive).
