Improving impression from your eye-candy

coldzero SG

This girl have been my eye-candy for sometime, say near 1 year, and I finally got her number a few weeks back and started talking to her through MSN before 'advancing' to messaging her daily. I have to admit I got too excited and rush into things too fast and it ends up with her getting a bit scare of me. I actually asked her to go out with me and asked if she wants to go home from school together after knowing her for like just 2 weeks. Her impression of me isn't that good; she probably sees me as a despo or stalker. My question is how do I gradually change her impression of me such that she will eventually feel comfortable talking to me? Is that even possible because that girl don't really relate to me in school (eg. We aren't in the same class or CCA). Also, she carries the highest post in her CCA, as such, she's so busy, sometimes the replies from my SMS gets delayed by quite a while.

gunner77 SG

don sms her unnecessarly

coldzero SG

Meaning? I message her these days for chats.

gunner77 SG

put urself in her shoes.

if someone who knows u recently and continously sms-ing u, will u get irritated ?

limit urself, maybe once a week msg her to ask her about her life ? slow things down

FireIce SG

calling a ger eye-candy is actually quite rude eh.

gunner77 SG

btw wats is eye candy ?

xavier1979 SG

- You've ruined her impression of you.

- Sadly, there is no common topic between both of you. And there isn't any other opportunity for her to get to know you better.

- Slow down your messaging. She ain't your gf.

- Show support as a friend. When she needs help, be willing to offer.

motoway SG

Are u sure the smses get delayed coz she’s busy? From wad i see she wants to avoid u.

CannyOng SG

Patience TS, patience! Bring out quality talk and time with her and not quantity time...

Get know her interest, work on it!

Scania L113 lover SG

If I was her and I come across a pest like you, I would simply block the msn, don't reply the msg and avoid you at all cost.

You're just disrupting her life, geddit?

Lost_Drift SG

take it easy,,relac la brother!

maskedangel SG

bro, very difficult situation u have. .
i suggest getting ur fren, a trustworthy one, hu is in her class to help u out.
best if the fren is a gal.

use indirect way la. but the way i see it, u may have blewn ur chances.

agnelli SG

imo u are too hasty liao but nvm take it as experience gained. What u can do now is, like 1 member suggested cut down ur smses to like maybe once a week? give her some space and see whether the situation improves and work from there.

aiglosicicle SG

note that none of these advices here will help you completely.

main reason: different girl... different guy... different environment. even the time and date will affect the outcome if you know what i mean. anything can work. anything can fail also. it's a gamble you have to take.