The story continues...
She has just broken up with her boyfriend weeks ago. Its
been more than a year and i still like her alot. I am
confident its not a crush or an infatuation. We have become very
close aft they broke up. I decided to bring her out with one
of my friends and let her have fun and cheer her up.
But then overtime and after few outings, he confessed
to her that he likes her and she too feels the same. The feelings
are mutual. The reason she haven got together with him is that, she
feels that she is treating him as a substitute and she still love
her ex.
You people may think im stupid and did not strike and confess to
her straightaway. It is because she was very depressed and i
dont wanna scare her off. I also dont wanna pressure her and
therefore tried to give her some time to get over. Another reason
is that i dun wanna lose her as a very close friend. I really
dont want to.
But looks like i was wrong. Am i wrong for giving her time to
settle down? I am now at a loss. If i tell her now and
confess, is it too late? Shld i just forget her and cut contact? I
dont knw wad to do now. Haiz.
Pls help. Thank you.
Nobu,
What are your chances of winning over the other guy if you
confess now ?
Learn how to pick your battles.
Heartbreaks can be avoided and friendship need not be
abandoned.
If she has likings for you, wouldn't you know ?
If your chances of going into battle and winning it is zero, why
try anyway and get yourself slaughtered ?
If cutting contacts with her is the only way you can move on,
then do it.
If you are emotionally strong and is able to overcome the
emotional bindings, then it's alright to hang on to this
friendship.
It really depends on you Nobu.
