This is going to be a long story….. I need
advice….
I am married for 8years with no kids.
All these 8 years, I carry the status of ‘married’ in
paper.
This doesn’t mean my hubby doesn’t love me, its just that
we did not consummate our marriage – no sex at all. No he is not a
gay!!!
We are like any dating couple – holding hands, sometimes
watching movie together.
Things start to change for the past two to three years. He
has been playing online games and spending more his time computer
than going out with me. Other than normal meals and buying
necessities, the rest of the time, he is hook on the
computer.
Some of you may say that its ok since he is not going out
to gamble or fool around. And he gives you freedom to do whatever
thing you like, not many married women get this freedom. Yes I
admit this freedom given but I believe in communication and
spending a little more time together.
I told him before but he will just say that I am not going
out to gamble, drink or fooling around, I am playing computer
games. What is wrong with this ?
He still cannot see what is the problem.
5 months ago, our flats were sold – the agreement of
selling the flats was decided by him. The reason is that property
market was good and we can make big profit ( which we
did).
There were no ‘but’ on this transaction and I have to sign
on the dotted line.
I was too (emotionally and physically) tired to argue with
him (the whole transaction took place when I was on business
trip)
We moved to stay with my parents after the flat was
sold.
Every night, he will just play his online game while I do
my own things.
Up and until now the flat was sold, I have lost interest
in this marriage.
I am beginning to feel like doing things alone and staying
with friends are more happy than to be with my hubby.
Recently I met a guy, someone which I wanted to know him
more. And if there is a chance I will like to develop a
relationship with him.
Whenever I am with this guy, I feel guilty….guilty not
towards my hubby but to this new guy.
This guy doesn’t know the above situation and I really
wanted to tell him.
I wanted to tell this guy about the above situation and
prepare for a divorce (which I have been thinking since the time I
sold my flat, so whether this guy appear or not, it doesn’t
matter)
Do you think after telling the whole situation above, I
will still be able to be with the (new) guy ?
If you are in the shoe of this (new) guy, what will you
think ?
i think that dun do anything behind ur husband or be unfaithful
to him first. i feel that communication is very important in any
kind of relationship particularly ur marriage in this case. i mean
does 8 years of marriage really counts for nothing at all?
try talking to him. no dun try, have a serious talk with him on
how you feel. make him see the problem the seriousness of it all. i
mean try to save the marriage first. i personally do not think that
divorce will resolve anything at all, it's just a way of running
away though. If you never solves the root of the problem, it will
come back to haunt you. think about it urself.
