Few years back.
Two guys entered my life at the same time. We were all from the
same secondary school and they knew each other. Lets call them X
& Y.
X attended to me via sms/msn. We chatted almost everyday,
talking about absolutely anything. He was the very caring type,
When I fall sick, he was there, telling me to drink more water,
rest well etcetc. Although we were very close, we never really
talked in school. Y was somehow like X. We chatted via sms/msn
everyday. He was there to cheer me up whenever I was sad and was
happy whenever I was happy. The only thing that differs was that we
went out a few times together. He paid for my expenses. Thus, we
were often mistaken as being a couple. Rumours started to go around
the school about me and Y being together when we were actually not.
Slowly, X and I drifted. Occasionally, I would initiate a
conversation with him on msn but we became, so stranger-like.
Frankly, I never thought of either one of them being my
boyfriend one day. I thought friends would come and go. But one
day, it eventually happened. One day, Y asked if I wanted to be his
girlfriend. And I agreed.
The next two years was probably the best phase of my life. We
were very loving in the beginning. Although there were up and
downs, we were back to being lovey-dovey again. During this period
of time, X found himself a gf and he practically disappeared from
my life. Sadly, things took a turn between my boy and I and we
eventually broke up three months ago. Its was over something that
was difficult to be solved, not because I didnt love him anymore or
vice versa. I still think of him everyday, and I really wish he
will be back by my side one day.
Then recently, X came back into my
life again. He, apparently has broken up with his gf. As we
chatted on msn, I am reminded of the good old times we had.
Sometimes, I feel like god has sent this guy to help me get over
my ex but sometimes, I feel otherwise. I dont know what to do.
I am afraid I will fall in love with
him because he 'helped' me out of this tough period. I feel
like not contacting him anymore, but till today, he and my ex are
still the only people I trust. I wish my ex can just return to me
so everything will be settled.
I really need a breather from all these confusing matters.
Constructive comments please?
The reason why X didn't make it to be your bf is probably he's
shy or just quiet when it comes to such matters..
X could be your buddy (soul mate/confidant - somebody that you
meet to share and talk about problems, secrets etc)
You shld however make it clear with X abt the relationship and
clarify with him on that issue.
Ask him if you could go to him when you need someone to lean
on.
Do take note that while he helped you out of tough times, don't
convert the gratitude and simply pass it off as feelings which you
might still have with Y. Since you still miss Y
You can't mix up X and Y.
If you must, then talk to X openly. Avoiding only make matters
worse.
My elder brother has a bossom buddy (of the opposite gender) and
they worked out quite well, as long as you let your other half
knows,at the very begining of the relationship (in future).
While I might not have such a confidant yet; still searching, at
least i have a fren whom i meet out late at night..when we're both
bored and to meet up just to chat and kill boredom.. (again of the
opposite gender).
If you find someone whom you trust, than talk to that
person.
It's hard to come across somebody who cares for you with no ill
intentions. (specifically since you're a girl and is at
disadvantage if you know what i mean..)
