Need some advice regarding handling relationships with
colleagues at a new workplace.
I have a busy social life outside work so I tend not hang out with
my new colleagues. I hang out with them occasionally but I can't
afford to hang out with them regularly. They like to organise last
minutes outings before knocking off work which I find difficult to
join in.
I am the easy going type with others but I prefer to spend my time
with old friends that I made during school days. I have good
relationships with my colleagues in my previous workplace so I do
not think I am the anti-social type.
Some of my new colleagues ostracizing me or digging at me at work.
I have tried to be friendly be they seemed to have a certain
mindset about me and it is hard to change their perception after a
few months of work.
I do not wish to bring this up to my boss. Worst scenario is I can
always quit and look for a new job but would prefer to be able to
handle the situation. Any advice would be appreciated. thks.
when you're new in the dept
when somebody offers you to join them for lunch..NEVER SAY NO at
least for the first few times
only during lunch, can they relax and so can you get to know
them better on their style of handling work and socializing with
friends and colleagues.
while old frens are good, but don't make it a mistake to stick only
to ur old friends.
the wider your social cycle, the more benefits you stand to gain
in future.
have a healthy balance between new and old friends and with
family.
old frens are understanding thus you can meet them lesser..a few
times per month shld be enough..
for me i only meet my old frens (secondary) frens once a
year..it's a yearly gathering..at the bbq..which works out
well..
just remember..if old friends are friends that stay with you no
matter what..
even if you don't meet them often, they still will be there for
you when you need help..or for company..
just make sure u keep in contact with them..
