I am new at work..like a few weeks only, not even one month. A
few days ago, there came a new girl & I thought she was fine
& talkative so I thought, "nvm, I can talk to her, it's ok"
Only then, I realised during my mentor's farewell party, she
tried to put me down in front of everybody. Maybe because I am an
introvert? Or is she trying to gain some points with the others, I
dunno. Anyways, I thought she might let me off but she is just
finding some opportunity to pester me, not much opportunity for her
though because she's new & she also doesn't know a lot of
things.
Morever, she's speaks alright in front of me but when in front
of HR or managers, she will start to blab abt almost anything..wow,
what a change & she seems to be alone & coming alone from
lunch even though she is slated with my other talkative colleagues
too...& just now, she even tried to embarrass me just because I
chosen to go to a 1pm slot during lunch with my other colleagues
instead, still trying to show off in front of the manager.
Anyways, I did something quite unexpected of me just now, is I
threw something at her & laugh it off as an accident. I even
asked her to help me clear my rubbish. Though she seemed somewhat
didn't notice I am trying to bully her or maybe she's trying to
brush it off, I felt really angry after that 1 pm slot incident as
I now realised she's trying to use me as her stepping stone since
she's an extrovert or talk too much.
I don't whether shld I do something drastic tomorrow, because
right now, I feel like smacking her hard in the face.
Please give your serious comments thank you.
Hi Bun Bun,
What exactly did she say that you felt that she is putting you
down ?
Anyway try not to read too much into her msg and try
to be less sensitive. Even if she is showing off, what harm
does it really does to you, physically and mentally ? I
don't see the value in getting annoyed,
thus spoiling your mood for the day. Somehow i feel
perhaps you probably overamplifying her flaws in your mind.
Remember that no one in the world is perfect, included
you, her and me. Just remember don't act childishly and don't react
to her nonsense.
Since what she say is not true, then why are you angry over the
false things that she has said? You must learn to judge the truth
about yourself and not base on what she had said. Since it isn't
true, why being affected by it ?
Cheers
