I find it hard to socialise with people because I am quiet.

aiglosicicle SG

why do you have no friends? you answered your own questions. your arrogance is the main reason why you cant seem to get along with anyone. you dont truly know a person unless you have spent a considerable amount of time interacting with the person. if you dont start being humble you'll find that you understand no one and no one will bother to understand you.

rlsh07 SG

i think that for a person, there are certain groups of people that cannot click with you though. i do not know you so i can't say for sure on the reason why though.

i guess then i will talk about me then. i'm quiet around people that i do not know very well and around people that i cannot click with but on the other hand i can quite talkative and joke around with people that i'm comfortable with or around with people that i can click with though.

so i guess just be more open about yourself so that other will open up to you as well. Even though you do not understand those jokes or anything, i guess just listen and try to get to know them more. communication is quite important though. dun look it as socializing but look it as you want to get to knoe someone better. If you are really sincere to know someone, they can feel it though

sand king SG

You know the problem right? Then work on it!
I beg to differ the part about cliques, you sound jealous.
If being immature will get you to know more people, then why not! You are not a working adult... enjoy when you still can! So what if you are 16 and still immature! Its much better then being 50+ and immature right!??

cApitaland SG

i used to be like you.

then i had to dumb myself down so that other ple could understand me better.

ah... the repercussions of being overly smart.
just remember that not everyone can catch your train of thought.
and relax abit. dun take everything too serious or at face value.

phil30k SG

Social interaction can be trained. Set time aside to be in a public situation.

Set a goal that you will speak to 3 people and find out:

1. What is their name.
2. What is their favorite food.
3. What is the name of one of their friends.

The rule is you cannot ask them outright. Instead you have to find ways to get them to volunteer the information.

This game has a time limit of 10 minutes. At the end of 10 minutes thank them for their time and leave.

Doing this periodically will help you develop your skill in social interaction.

ha8n SG

be yourself , if the ppl u dont want to talk to , then dont talk to them easy

<Precious> SG

Now that you've identified the problem, take the next step to solve it lah. You know u r quiet & it hinders your level of socializing, so lighten and open up lor..... Razz

Not suggesting that you change to a loudmouth overnight but be more out-going lah Wink

xavier1979 SG

It's hard to change one's character.

But one advice: Think positive.

When you're feeling positive & confident, it shows. The cheerfulness you exhibit will attract people to chat with you and know you better.

Soon, you won't find it much of a problem to be sociable.

Also, try not to judge. Each of us is different in our own way. Accept people for who they are, and they will accept you for the quiet character that you are inside.

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