Will initimatcy with a close friend affect your relationship

abterror SG

I was thinking if assuming you end up in bed with a very close friend.
What will happen?

1) You guys will avoid one another hence drift apart.
2) The relaitonship will no longer be purely friendship, If it happen once it will happen again
3) Eventually get together as a couple.

Is it possible to remain purely as friends?
Or you have just lose a close friend due to your impertinent actions.
Anyone had experience or seen it happen?

Jamie Zawinski SG

you gay faggot! get out of this forum!

de_middle SG

Laughing

MidnightK SG

are you always in agony?

abterror SG

Nope, But i was thinking the reply i got from Bars might be craps.
At least the ppl here give some constructive answers.

abterror SG

Nvm, lets just end this thread. Comes to think of it, it is not something tat is agony. Just a general question.

extrinsic SG

depending on if any of the parties are attached.

if attached, the attached party (might) feel guilty and eventually drift apart.
if not, continue the affairs.

abterror SG

So u mean Normal friendship will not exist?
It will no longer be a close friend. It drift either ways?
Eventually it will just perish?

Jamie Zawinski SG

you should post in this thread instead

http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=290040&page=44

extrinsic SG

imo, dun tink normal frdship will still exist.
either ended up as fb or either drift off.

still persist as normal frds is.. quite rare ba...
even if the event happen due to drunkness or wadsoever..

SuperPippo SG

The best is that you gotta talk with your close friend.
You must hear to his or her reactions and answers.
From there, i assume you should know whether it will be 1), 2), 3).
To me, it's individual preference.
I mean that's my opinions Smile

New Creation SG

There is a 4th option. Each of you suffers from temporary amnesia and forget this ever took place. Do not get together in a relationship simply becz u slept with one another. There will be loads of Guilt in the girl's heart. Option 3 is out.

abterror SG

But maybe you guys have feeling for one another, but mix between friendship and love.

Tier SG

If the 2 of you doesnt have any feeling for each other.
Its may be possible to pretend nothing happen and continue to be friends.
Depend on the character of both.

If there is feeling involve there is sure to be complication, happen again and again, may end up together as couple. If it doesnt work out, friendship may be affected.

This kinda thing definitely will affect the friendship. And you all will view each other in a different perspective, you cant help it.

Darkness_hacker99 SG

What does your 'end up in bed' means? Had sexual intercourse?

Please clarify, if not it'll be hard for me to give advice.

Guardx SG

In a modern age, sleeping with your close friends is like eating breakfast.
No big deal. Both of you got a need and both of you fullfill the need.

You should be a mature adult and you should treat it as a normal day to day stuff and get over it . Stop thinking so much and get on with life. She is not the only best friend rite?

Tier SG

Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked oh thats shocking
sleeping with close friends like eating breakfast.
First time hear that!

I am from different era I guess!

Demonight SG

number 3 is the answer...as for the aftermath it depends...hard to remain friends after that if you're both alone in the same room

phil30k SG

A valid question was asked, are you talking about a male-male relationship?

Male-male, you either end up as bitter enemies or one of you stays in love while the other moves on.

Male-female, either the guy falls in love and the girl moves on or the girl gets demanding and the boy feels trapped and runs.

Female-female, one will decide to try men and the other will end up waiting.

Edited: I think this advice may be too late for you. But if you are close friends, do something to signal a change of your intentions. Start buying flowers, refer to her as your girlfriend. Give her some time to adjust her mindset to being your girlfriend. Then she'll either stop you or let you continue in your courtship. Otherwise she'll feel like she was molested by her brother.

rainee SG

It happened to me before Neutral It didn't go further other than hugging and kissing, but still it totally destroyed my trust in him especially when I considered him to be one of my closest guy friends...

After that incident, I chose to drift apart from him because everytime we are together I will just be reminded of whatever that has happened. He has tried to contact me a few times after that but I always feel that it is too awkward to continue as friends anymore.

Even when he contacted me recently, which was a few years after that incident, I still found it hard to go back to being friends Sad