Just Something to share with u ppls that i read from
other places
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I am 30+ le, happily married for about 10yrs. However, my love life
wasn't so smooth sailing before I met my hubby.
My ex is a guy whom is 7yrs my senior. I was 20 when I met him. He
is rich, decent and very kind guy who goes to church n volunteer
alot. I was attracted to all his good points.
We worked in the same company at that time. I was 1 of the youngest
n prettiest girl there. I had many suitors but I wasn't interested
at all. I juz became frens with my ex cos he stayed near my home n
often offer to fetch n send me.
We chatted everything n share our love life. I guess I felt v
secure to hv some1 so muz older to lean on. I didn't realise that
my ex n I started to click off after that.
He had juz broken off wif his gf of 6yrs n I was his companion. He
liked how innocent n sweet I was. I trusted him fully as we were so
open abt our relationships.
I thought that there was no reason that he shd cheat on me cos he
is so old le. I respected him n even obey his instructions wat to
wear. I was so naive n silly.
We only went out after work til midnite.. I will hv to wait for his
calls on wkends for a date. I cld not afford a hp at that time n
wil always stay at home to wait for him. He usually picks me up v
late evening.
He did not show any sign of cheating. However, he misplaced his hp
in my bag once n I got his gf phone number easily. There r many nos
but I saw this particular 1 with a nickname which stored office, hp
n pager n I guess something fishy.
The next day, I page that number n a girl returned my call. As my
ex had told me all abt his ex, I juz pretend that I am buying
insurance frm her(she is an insurance agent). I met her n was
surprised to see a contrast between the 2 of us. She is the next
door girl while I am young n vibrant.
That night, I called the girl again. I mentioned my ex name n she
started crying pitifully. She told me that it was not the 1st time.
I was hurt n angry. He had met her daily but briefly. He always
send her back after dinner claiming he was v tired n met me after
that. He chosed to spend most festival with me n leave her alone.
He always hv excuses..I juz wondered y this gal can accept all
these craps lor.. On his birthday, we booked a chalet. He did sneak
out during lunch time claiming he had some errands to run n return
to me.
I confronted my ex then. I was sad but I was a v strong headed girl
then. My ex denied all but he did not stop me from breaking up. I
pitied the girl for spending 6yrs with this jerk.
I did not eat n cried for 3 days. It was difficult for me. I
decided to resign frm my job but my boss encouraged me to stay. My
ex also started telling every1 that he was v sorry but he really
did not cheat. I guess I was too stubborn to accept any
explaination then. I moved on with my life n met my hubby. My hubby
is also a nice guy n we got married v soon after that.
If u were to ask me, if I married on impluse, I guess I was at that
time. However, I really hv to thank god that I had made a wise
decision. Sometimes, I do ponder if I shd listen n accept my ex
explaination but then... I met him 5yrs after I got married, he
still insisted that it was not wat I thought. The only acceptable
explanation I can find for him is : he was torn between the 2 of
us. He loved us both???
I am sharing this story not to encourage pple to give a chance or
break up. I juz felt that u hv to learn to thrash things out b4
jumping to any decisions. I love my hubby n we hv a wonderful
family. I dunno if things wil b different if I chosed to give my ex
a chance at that time. My ex is also a v proud person so he did not
bother muz explainations 2.
Nevertheless, I was really hurt badly n I always worried abt the
trust in my hubby. I trusted my hubby alot 2 but I juz hoped I can
put my past behind n start learning to build trust in men again.
Lastly, I wish everyone the best in love
