Losing feelings?

coldzero SG · 2008-01-17T00:22:36+00:00

if ure committed, u will make efforts to make sure things are always goin well. dun ever take her for granted. if u really love her, u can always do little...

coldzero SG

I have been with my gf for near 8 months already and the feeling have been fading. We used to be so lovely. Right now, we hardly got anything to talk about and sometimes, I rather talk to other girls whom I’m close with. I really wanna maintain a long-term relationship with my gf. Any suggestions?

Ferret SG

if no feelings riaos maintain for what ?

Hello Kitty SG

coz he no shows me enuff attn... Crying or Very sad

CannyOng SG

Don't allow yr r/s to be stagnant..

Dating is the key word... Continue to date her as u are courting her. Activities do spice up yr r/s. Be creative and imaginative.

coldzero SG

Because I need her as a support. She gives me a lot of support, just that kind of girl as an ideal gf of mine.

Ferret SG

ur friends can give u support too...

is it really necessary to hold onto her ?

Hello Kitty SG

u r such an idiot.

y cant u leave her alone.

she'll be betta off w/o hvin u ard.

MidnightK SG

gf for support?
might as well get a wall..
must sturdy and won't collapse..

feelings fade, hard to get back..
she's still loving you and yet you find other girls to talk to instead of her

rainee SG

after a while, definitely the feeling will settled down to become something “calmer”? The beginning excitement will slowly give way to contentment and the feeling of security instead…

kiseki SG

i've already been with my bf for 1 year and 5 months ...
but we're still the same as before .
i dun feel that any of the initial sparks has gone off .
i think it all boils down to you .
do you really feel the spark is gone ?
then break up .
i feel its unfair to your gf if you carry on like this , period .

coldzero SG

Yup.. This is exactly how I'm feeling.

rainee SG

then it is alright ma, doesn't mean everyday when meet her need to have sparks flying everywhere, hear bells ringing, see angels and all those things Laughing Occasionally will still feel it la, but have to get used to the feeling of contentment...

And there is joy in that feeling of security and stability Wink

rainee SG

different people have different length of honeymoon period...

so one day you might be feeling the same way as TS...maybe 10 years down the road later... Laughing

The feeling of contentment doesn't mean that the sparks are gone...

mir4cle SG

u two have breaks and see how u feel ba..if u miss her, go back to her. absence makes the heart fonder.

aremeis SG

Sometimes it will be helpful for one to stop talking and start listening. Nothing beats a good listener. Being a listening party often helps the other party to open up and let's you as a listener become more attentive and realise what the other party actually needs.

I am sure with such a short period together I am sure that are a lot of things you would like to do with her and give to her. But all these requires the right timings and would really requires your patience and presence to make it work.

Hope that this will be of help....Just my 2 cents worth.

de_middle SG

not a good suggestion...imagine someone who's married & feels the same...will a separation be necessary Question

fairlady_xoxo SG

Means you’re staying for the sake of being in a relationship…not because you love her…

extrinsic SG

i dunno if my comments are oop.
but if u r a guy, resist in having no s*x.

i feel once guys had s*x, their feeling dies down.
my perception of most guys = s*x first, talk later.

Nata|ie SG

Do u still love her? If the answer is Yes, then I think you are not doing what you shld be doing to maintain it.

1. Spice things up.
2. Find common topics to chat on.

It's only 8 months and you feel that feelings are fading. The novelty has died down?

Why would you rather talk to other girls whom you are close to instead of your girlfriend?

If you do not have anymore feelings for her. Let her go. Spare her the agony adn stop wasting each other's time.

ghast. SG

i guess it’s bound to happen, the loss of excitement in a r/s after all what you guys do whenever you guys meet, is pretty much the same. so think of ways by which you can retain those happy times for long.